IamSam Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I'm a 22 year old college student. Who got out of a six year relationship in October. However, during my rebuilding phase and healing. I released all of my sexual demons that I kept inside me for so long. Nevertheless, I finally met this girl that I fell head over heals for. I'm talking the natural instant attraction both sides saying the right thing. We are virtually two peas in a pod. We have the same taste in foods, music, date nights, affection and other important details that make a relationship work out. I met her at a bar and we went on dates and did all sorts of things together as couples. She spent nights at my place ect ect. Furthermore, we have only been dating one month, however, sometimes things seems to just click. Do I love her? Yeah I do and she has the same feelings. I DO NOT BELIEVE WE ARE FULLY IN LOVE. Nevertheless, despite all of this natural chemistry and lust there is one problem. I found out she has a boyfriend. In fact, when I confronted her about it she tried to cover it up, until she had to face the facts. The reason she did not want to tell me was because she was unhappy and was about to break it off. She did not know she would fall head over heels this fast and agree to be in a relationship. She says this is the first time this has ever happened and has to do largely with her unhappiness. Her current boyfriend is what a narcissistic d bag that is using her for her pleasure. When ever she pulls away he tries to pull her close. She explained all the cheating and hurt full things he did. In addition, to all the sketchy things of hiding his phone, tilting his phone while texting. In addition, he would not answer girls phone call when she was in the car. He continued to lie and lie until he could not trust him. At this point I asked why did you stay with him? She said because he was nice at fist, good looking, and promised to change. Nevertheless, I said well we cannot date anymore. Unless, you decide to break it off with your current boyfriend. In addition, you do realize you have been getting all the boyfriend qualities from and not him? In fact, he does not even text you while you are with me. Who does not say at least good night or something. She could not explain... I put it blunt a guy that does not care... She promised to break it off...Needless to say that did not last, She fell for his trap again and go sucked in. Furthermore, he did not change on bit and was still just as anti-social as before. I asked once again why do you think he would change if he had not in the paste 2 years? She had no answer really.. except please give me one more chance. However, I knew for a week in advance that she was back together with this man. I did not hook up with her sexually. On the other hand, i showed her all the important things a boyfriend who actually cares would do. Text, call and do other things to help her get through her day and relieve stress. During this time she explained how happy I Made her. Basically, sometimes people need to see the love they deserve before they accept and expect nothing but that. I confronted her again she tried to lie a little bit about it again. However, she knew that she was caught again and she felt so sad. She said she was changing and they were drifting even more. In addition, I opened her eyes to all the signs of how bad of a boyfriend he was. In addition, to the lack of trust you had.. Could there every be a future. Do you want to be married to a guy like that with kids? At this point I told her I'm not telling this to you as your boyfriend. That is long done. We are just friends and naturally being the good person, I offered her advise and a shoulder to lean on. She gave him a call in front of me. First and foremost, he screamed over and her did not let her talk at first. I told her why are you letting someone walk all over you? Secondly, she came clean about finding another man that cares about her and showed her what she deserved. Thirdly, she called out all of his actions. (This is important, everything she told me, she called him out on. She was telling the truth about his bad behavior. Despite the phone conversation he attempted to become a better man once again. Her response was ok. I doubt it but go ahead and prove it. He told her that he talked to her dad. However, when she confronted her dad, he did not get any call from him about everything he did to her. Finally, I explain to her is this what you really want in your life? I'm not here trying to get a relationship. I'm just here as a friend trying to support you in a bad relationship. He did not make you a better person. He made you treat me like **** because you took it that all guys dogged around. This is why she would always be suspicious of me cheating. (A sign that she is cheating, i know) The difference between last time and this time. I asked why did she feel it was ok to be used and abused like that? It all tied into her low self esteem and childhood. In addition, to some pretty screwed up relationships. My last question was why did i deserve this? She told me from the moment I met you I wish I came clean and dumped my terrible boyfriend. You are truly an amazing person with a heart of gold. You know how to treat a lady with respect and you are attractive. I do not know why it took so long for me to see it. We are now back together. Things are good, do i trust her yet? No Do I love her? Yeah protective? Yes Do new rules apply to her, yes. I explained all of my conditions and so far she has been willing.. What do you guys think? Bull **** or no?
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