prettycutesoul Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Hi everyone, I'm new here and I'd like some advice on how to get over someone. Someone I used to love. I don't want him back because I know how wrong he is for me, but it's kinda hard getting over someone you spend every day together with. I am doing NC, and I am going out and having fun but I still think about him. Is there any good/better way to get over someone quickly? Anyone have any ideas?
lonewalker Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 The precise thing to do is to stop thinking about how to get over him. Becoz if u keep asking that, u will constantly be reminded of him. Have to do things that shift ur focus. Go out with friends helped. Call and talk to people helped. Work helped. Doing things like exercise helped. Find a hobby.
316 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Hey there prettycutesoul! Unfortunately there's no magical steps you can take that will quickly alleviate your sense of loss, and there's also no exact timeline in terms of how quickly you should completely get over your ex... but there are some things you can do to make the healing process go by a bit faster. 1) Try new things/go to new places... You've made multiple memories with your ex, so now it's time to go out and make some new ones on your own! Try new things that you wouldn't be able to do if you were still with your ex. Go out with friends whenever possible, take up a new hobby, spoil yourself with a vacation, etc. You don't need a significant other to experience the world! Use this time alone to really find yourself. 2) Stay positive... As bad as the pain is, simply remembering that there is indeed a light at the end of the tunnel can be very empowering. Just take everything day by day and know that you are slowly but surely getting stronger with each passing minute as crazy as that sounds. Just remember if breakups killed people we'd all be dead! "This too shall pass." 3) Avoid staying alone in your room for extended periods of time! This is when and where our minds wander the most! Try to avoid being in your room for too long whenever possible. Go read outside, do chores around the house, watch a movie in the living room, go walk the dogs, bake something (if you're into cooking), do homework in the kitchen, go to the gym to work out (strongly recommend this one), just keep yourself busy. Your mind can't wander nearly as much if you're always occupied! 4) AVOID SOCIAL MEDIA SITES LIKE THE PLAGUE! If you can't do that then make sure you block your ex through any means possible. Just seeing a picture of your ex having fun without you can set you back big time. and most of all... 5) Don't break no contact! Do all of the above and I guarantee you you'll be feeling better much faster than usual. But of course we still have our down moments but that's what LS is for in the first place. Post here whenever you're feeling down. Hope I helped! 3
Author prettycutesoul Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Hi thanks a bunch for the replies.. It's been a hard couple of days and i've been keeping busy it just pops up in my head, and I sooo want to call him up or text him and throw a rock at his head for being stupid. But thanks a bunch 316, I have done the majority of that list. Thanks a bunch your post is pretty great/uplifting I have my down days today is one of them. Its so fresh I haven;t had the time to cry and rant about it flush it out of my system ya know.
316 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Hi thanks a bunch for the replies.. It's been a hard couple of days and i've been keeping busy it just pops up in my head, and I sooo want to call him up or text him and throw a rock at his head for being stupid. But thanks a bunch 316, I have done the majority of that list. Thanks a bunch your post is pretty great/uplifting I have my down days today is one of them. Its so fresh I haven;t had the time to cry and rant about it flush it out of my system ya know. Glad I could help! Have you given yourself some time to properly grieve? How long ago was the break up?
Author prettycutesoul Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Glad I could help! Have you given yourself some time to properly grieve? How long ago was the break up? we've been on and off for a couple of months, we broke up a good 5 months ago but still saw each other unofficially (I know, stupid), but it was like we were still together, nothing changed. but last week was the week we hit a wall, we both know we aren't happy together. He's confused with what he wants so I went about and told him we have to stop talking to get over each other. I've been so unhappy for so long but so scared to let him go, same with him. I haven't flushed breaking up with him for good yet since it happened a good 4 days ago or so. I don't wanna fall back into the whole we'll see each other unofficially thing.
BustedUpInside Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I think, at first, it is okay to do some things that may not be healthy in the long run. I try to list the reasons why my ex sucked whenever I get sad about the break up. Other times, I list all the reasons that people gave me for why I was too good for him. Like I said, it is probably not good to do that in the long run, but in the first couple of weeks of NC when it is really tempting to text him or call him, it is ok to use harsher measures. 1
Author prettycutesoul Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 I think, at first, it is okay to do some things that may not be healthy in the long run. I try to list the reasons why my ex sucked whenever I get sad about the break up. Other times, I list all the reasons that people gave me for why I was too good for him. Like I said, it is probably not good to do that in the long run, but in the first couple of weeks of NC when it is really tempting to text him or call him, it is ok to use harsher measures. Hey, yeah thats what I do now!! when i think of calling him I have this long running list of why he sucks, and then i stop, but that doesn't stop me from thinking about him. Man I hate him, lol.
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