idkwhat2do Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 My ex-girlfriend and I dated for about 5 years, but recently broke up(2months ago), we still see each other on campus and say hi, and maybe talk for a few minutes, nothing special. so now starts my problem, My ex-girlfriends best friend ( they have know each other about 3 years) and I have a class together, and the other night we decided to work on a project together. I came over to her place, and she offered to make me dinner, so i accepted. We ate, finished our project, and she said she wanted to go out and do something. We started off having a few drinks at her house, and went to a little bar. We both got really drunk, and she started to make out with me at the bar. I stopped that, and took her home. I was sitting on her couch back at her place and she laid on me. We had sex, and I spent the night with her. The next day, i called her to say sorry about last night, but she was like don't worry about it, and asked if i would like to see a movie with her. we went to the movie, nothing happened that night, (i think we both felt awkward). I kinda like her, but I don't want to threaten her relationship with my ex. What should I do? Just consider it a one night thing? ask her out again? I don't want to make things weird, we were just friends before.
humph.. Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Well, this could be a potentially sticky situation- or not. Will your ex be upset or hurt by this? No matter what, it's going to be weird for her..imagine if she slept with your best friend. no matter how over you she may be, it will still be strange for her -so keep that in mind. If you really like this girl and want to pursue a relationship, then you need to find out how your ex is going to take it and prepare yourself accordingly. Another interesting point here is that this friend seems to want to spend a fair bit of time with you, hanging out, movies etc... I advise you finding out if she has feelings for you, or if its just a bit of fun on her part..it seems like she isnt too concerned about how her friend (your ex) might feel about this, which to me is a bit of a worry. I know you're single and so is she, but girls who are best friends know that ex-boyfriends are 99.9% to be off limits- purely for loyalty factor. Moving on to my next point- you said you "kinda" like this girl...well considering the circumstances, just 'kinda '' liking her is not really that enthusiastic.. you coul potentially break a friendship up and for what? because you mary or may not like your exs friend? Find out what's going on with her, figure out if YOU want to date this girl for the right reasons..
Jilly10340 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 I have a question....who broke up with who?
ltomlinson81 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Don't be an idiot... You are never supposed to date the best friends of an ex. Its an unwritten rule. There are a million other women out there. Don't be selfish.
Merin Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Originally posted by idkwhat2do My ex-girlfriend and I dated for about 5 years, but recently broke up(2months ago), we still see each other on campus and say hi, and maybe talk for a few minutes, nothing special. so now starts my problem, My ex-girlfriends best friend ( they have know each other about 3 years) and I have a class together, and the other night we decided to work on a project together. I came over to her place, and she offered to make me dinner, so i accepted. We ate, finished our project, and she said she wanted to go out and do something. We started off having a few drinks at her house, and went to a little bar. We both got really drunk, and she started to make out with me at the bar. I stopped that, and took her home. I was sitting on her couch back at her place and she laid on me. We had sex, and I spent the night with her. The next day, i called her to say sorry about last night, but she was like don't worry about it, and asked if i would like to see a movie with her. we went to the movie, nothing happened that night, (i think we both felt awkward). I kinda like her, but I don't want to threaten her relationship with my ex. What should I do? Just consider it a one night thing? ask her out again? I don't want to make things weird, we were just friends before. Wow! Well I really question what your ex-girlfriends "Best Friend" is thinking here? I would NEVER consider dating much less having sex with my best friends EX.... so now I have to question if your Ex's "Friend" is trying to get even with her for some reason? OR if she is just really not that much of a friend and is wanting to move in on you regardless of your past history with your ex? Hmm.... I would sit her down and ask her what this all about.
amerikajin Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Too late, dude. The line has been crossed. The good news for you is that it's not necessarily your problem. It's up to your friend to decide whether or not she's really being a good friend by sleeping with you. If I were her friend, I'd be pissed; but that's between them, not you. As for you, it's possible that you'll end up losing contact with both of them if they want to patch things up. Just keep it under raps and let whatever happens, happen.
FolderWife Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 In my opinion, her relationship with your ex is HER problem, not yours. If you like her, and she's obviously giving you all the right signals, THEN GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!! Don't worry about your ex....you two aren't an item any more, and you are free to do whatever you want. Again, this new girl's friendship with your ex is her concern, so you just worry about you Have fun!!
sami Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Why are you ion this current relationship ? Is it " just friendship, friends with benefits or a serious and steady boy/girl thing ?". You both need to figure out. If it is a serious one with a promising potential then your " girlfriend" should work it out with her friend. I mean your ex. You shouldn't worry about it unless you are still thinking in the back of your mind to go back to your ex. If so, then you will be torn in between two ends my friend. You may need to wait until you are fully clear on this issue and then you find for yourself which way you want to go.
fredrolin Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Originally posted by ltomlinson81 Don't be an idiot... You are never supposed to date the best friends of an ex. Its an unwritten rule. There are a million other women out there. Don't be selfish. There are no such things as "unwritten rules". I say bang her again and again....why not? You didn't do anything wrong. You are a single man.
FolderWife Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Originally posted by fredrolin There are no such things as "unwritten rules". I say bang her again and again....why not? You didn't do anything wrong. You are a single man.
sami Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Is this a smile or a frown? Just curious!!!!!
ltomlinson81 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 There may not be unwritten rules, per se, but there is a such thing as being a decent person and not doing things that hurt others.
fredrolin Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Originally posted by ltomlinson81 there is a such thing as being a decent person and not doing things that hurt others. The people that associate with such people don't need forums such as these.
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