Silly Girl924 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Hello so this is my first thread and I've been reading a lot of other ones I was hoping to get some help from an outside source. This is not a short story but here goes lol.. So my ex and I dated for almost 4 years. I'm 21 he's 20 and in these 4 years we were long distance for 2 because I was goin to school 4 hours away. Last spring his mommy passed away and I decided to transfer to a school closer to my hometown. We had a great relationship, already picked out our future children's names but it went downhill when I moved back. He would ditch me for his friends all the time and from last October to this April we broke up and got back together quite a few times. This last time we broke up, it was cuz he ditched me on a "special" night he had planned for us so I got pissed, ignored him for a few days and sent him mean text messages when he wouldn't leave me alone. I guess he was the one to dump me cuz he texted me saying "I'm done I'm sick of all ur bs" I blew him up through text for a few days all "can't we at least talk face to face and end four years gracefully and peacefully and get some good closure" and his exact text was "idk what to do I still love u I always will but I've been seein and sleeping with someone lately and I can't be in a relationship with you right now" (yea it took him 2 weeks to start "seein someone" he's known for a while). This new girl is totalllyyyy different from me especially looks but she was my BFF in middle school I know her really well she's a high school dropout and has lotssss of anxiety and depression problems. I saw my ex this week at a gas station and he hid from me when I walked in, but when he walked out I was already in my car and him and his friend walked out laughing and he looked at me with a huge smile and waved...wtf?!?!? And the friend he was with started blowing me up that night on fb like "ur soo cute we should hang out sometime blah blah" but I blocked him then and there. Also, my ex looked like shiiiiiiiiiit. I'm not just sayin that, he looks like he hasn't showered or shaved in weeks and he was already realllyyyy skinny but now his cheeks look sunken in I think he's on drugs worse than he was (I'm not a druggy at all but I know he's experimented) I guess the point of this post is wtf?!?!? I'm hopin for him to text me or tell me how much he regrets loosing me just so I can get the liberated feeling of ignoring him... Bitchy, bitter, spiteful I kno.. But wtf?!?
Blckrooster46 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Similar in age but much different back round. This guy seems really immature and while I am sure you have done stupid stuff too, the best thing you can do to a guy like that is act and be better than him. He will call you his crazy ex if you keep this when in reality it's his behavior that has made you act even somewhat out of character. From what I am hearing you are better off but if you want him back just completely ignore him and be the better person, guys hate this, it makes us feel like children. My first relationship was a lot like what you are describing and she acting insane, did I probably provoke her yeah, but to the outside world I looked like a guy trying to get out of a bad thing because I acted like the better person. We were both to blame but to her and everyone else I seemed much more mature and that caused her to want me back even more. I don't know you sound better off without him but I don't know all the variables so I may be wrong.
Author Silly Girl924 Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Thankkkk youuu literally sooo on target... I'm usually a really nice and caring girl.. But he literally turned me crazy and I can only imagine the things he's said about me but I haven't talked to him or texted or called I've been NC for 2 or 3 weeks now I stopped everything after he told me he was seeing someone else I'm think I'm just extra soft today cuz I feel really bad it's Mother's Day and it's his second Mother's Day w o a mother and I kinda wanted to text him but I kept strong cuz I've lost wayyy too much dignity for him who took me for granted.. Thanks again
Blckrooster46 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Yeah just to be honest though I lost my father a year and half ago and I don't really think I realized how much it ****ed me up. About 8 months after he passed i started dating a girl I have know since I was 6 and she was five (family friends) our families always joked we'd end up together. So we started dating and I was her first actual boyfriend and things happened fast, we fell fast. Anyway the happiness she gave me is something I will always love her for because I honestly didnt thin it possible, we broke up a month ago out of no where and the more i looked at it, it isn't that she was young it was that I took her for granted and got mad at her for no reason when I was probably mad about losing my father. I did treat her pretty great something I do think she will realize when she see's most guys don't do the things I did for her. But I know it was my fault and now the best thing that ever happened to me is gone and it is because I was too stupid to realize it was slipping away. Basically all I am saying is he may be acting like a huge douche but he'll regret it and it doesn't by any means make it acceptable but losing a parent can deeply **** you up in way the child doesn't even realize. Stay strong though if you act better than his actions he will most likely realize what an idiot he is being and at least truly apologize at some point.
Author Silly Girl924 Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 I'm sorry to hear that:/ I don't know what it's like I just know I transferred college to be closer to him to make sure he didn't loose his mind. I guess I failed but I slowly realized you can only save yourself if you wanna be. From the way he looks I do not think he's doing well at all but he's either gonna rise or fall.
Blckrooster46 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 We tend to take out out pain on the ones closest to us an unfortunate fault of man.
Author Silly Girl924 Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 We shall see what happens. I'm still hoping for a text or something but probably not now that he's with another girl.
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