crederer Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 (edited) So, as I'm eating dinner at my mom's (it being mothers day and all) I got a text from the ex saying she thinks she may have an STD. If this is true, it had to come from me because she hasn't slept with anyone since the break up (this is the verbatem text). I responded by saying "I'll call you when I get home, I don't want to talk about this over text". I call her when I get home and she says "sorry, I think I overreacted. I just shaved down there and it was quite itchy and I got all worried about it". What the hell is this? She's a grown ass woman, you'd think she'd know the difference between being itchy and having a health problem. My immediate thought was that she was using an excuse to get in contact with me and didn't want to admit it. Or that she was fishing to see if I have slept with anyone else. What the hell kind of head games are these? Also, I know I don't have an STD because I was tested 3 weeks ago and have not had sex since that time. When she asked what I thought I said "I think it's highly unlikely" and she said "what does highly unlikely mean?" I said "well I've been tested since we broke up and I'm clean, I dunno what you've been doing, though" She said "oh, good, that makes me feel a lot better" Is she actually using a possibility of having an STD as an excuse to talk to me? Edited May 13, 2013 by crederer more info
coltsfan1 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 She is just rattling your cage. Next time she pulls this tell her to call you after her teat results come back..... 1
BustedUpInside Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 You've got to hand it to her. That is a pretty smart way of getting your attention. She gets to get information about your life without revealing anything about what she's doing. I think you did the right thing by talking to her about it though. If she does it again, you should definitely blow her off. One time is ok, but more than that and she is just being nosy 2
ThatJustHappened Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 She might have also been using it as a way to tell you she hasn't slept with anyone else and trying to find out if you have. It's good that you followed up, but now that you know, I hope you'll ignore these pathetic cries for attention in the future... 1
Author crederer Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 So to update, we texted back and foreth a little bit after. She basically said she misses me and my company. I said "I don't really know what to say....you broke up with me" She said "I know..it's hard." I said "I can't really just start being your hang out buddy" She said "I know, that's why I haven't been in contact with you because I know it's hard. Maybe someday we can hang out" I said "Yah.....maybe someday. I'm going to bed" So, I feel like she's trying to friend zone me. I genuinely believe she's trying to be friends as we were really good friends while in our relationship. Sounds cliche but we were best friends. But then, why does she keep making a point of making sure I know she hasn't slept with or dated anyone? I mean we're broke up, why keep driving this point home? It's about the third time she made sure I knew this.
Emilia Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 But then, why does she keep making a point of making sure I know she hasn't slept with or dated anyone? I mean we're broke up, why keep driving this point home? It's about the third time she made sure I knew this. Referring to an itchy vagina is woman talk for wanting sex. She was after some good times reminiscing of the physical nature. 1
Author crederer Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 She was trying to initiate sex with me by telling me she might have an STD? Doesn't seem logical... 2
Emilia Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 She was trying to initiate sex with me by telling me she might have an STD? Doesn't seem logical... She was always going to tell you that it was a false alarm
Author crederer Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 (edited) Hahah well.... to be honest, we had a great sex life in the beginning but the last 3 months she changed meds that completely killed her libido. Like COMPLETELY killed it. Doctor said that side effect likely wont go away so we started considering new meds. We didn't get that far before the break up and I know she is still on the same meds. Which at times I think may have been a cause in the break up. Sometimes I think she felt she lost that spark, but the spark was lost due to the meds....just speculation this wasn't discussed. Edited May 13, 2013 by crederer more info
Ajax Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I think you both need a considerable amount of time and space away from each other to gain some perspective and healing.
Star Gazer Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Also, I know I don't have an STD because I was tested 3 weeks ago and have not had sex since that time. Actually, you don't. There is no test for HPV in men, so for all you know, you could be passing that around.
Author crederer Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 We've been apart for almost 3 months. Talked 3 times. One was just to exchange our stuff (had a chat) one was her upset about something that happened to her, and now this. I'd say we've had quite a bit of space. And I'm sorry I don't understand the comment about one being nice to ones mom?
Author crederer Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Nice to my mom? Lol I'm sorry I still don't follow. My mom and I have a pretty good relationship.
Zahara Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I've used plain words but one more, final, try - not all men are nice to their mothers I think he's trying to figure out why you're relating men being nice to their mothers with his concern about his ex faking an STD. What's the connection or was that a random thought just because he was having a nice day with his mother?
Zahara Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 a connection of nice guy seeming nice for dining with his mom, it was just my two-cent style observation! if you have a concern over men's moms, see what others say by starting a new thread bye xx I don't have a concern over men and their moms. Just not sure what your observation about men and their moms have to do with his ex calling about an STD, which is the topic of concern to the poster. That's all. 2
Author crederer Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Yes Zahara was right. I was just confused as to why my mother was mentioned. I actually thought you may have been sarcastic or something because I texted my ex while eating dinner. It was also kind of ironic because my ex was the topic of conversation WHILE she texted me.
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