Reconciliation possible? What's an out of the blue Facebook message mean?

[wondering11]

So we dated for three years, were very in love, travelled together and talked of marriage. But due to a lot of things, mainly my immaturity and lack of experience (age difference is almost 10 years), we broke up. There was no contact until four years later when he added me on Facebook and we sent a couple messages to each other making peace. Three years after that, while I was preparing to file for divorce from my ex-husband, I strongly felt that I needed to contact my ex and asked him if we could talk. We spoke shortly afterwards and had a good conversation, caught up, but I didn't tell him about the divorce. He did tell me he hoped we stayed in contact and that he was single and never married and we talked a little bit about my child. It was a positive, nice exchange. Since then I have been very busy with a custody battle, divorce etc. Now it's been two years since that phone call and he messaged me recently saying he was thinking about the past and wanted to see how I was doing. I have always felt he was my true love and if he was interested in getting back together or talking I would be happy to engage. For the record, we have not, except for the times I described above stayed in contact or checked in regularly in any way. Based on Facebook I actually thought he was dating someone and maybe even engaged in the past two years since our phone call. I wrote him back that I think about our past too sometimes and if he wanted to catch up we should again talk on the phone. Is there a chance? Could he possibly still be interested after all this time?

[EnTT]

I think there's a pretty good chance he's still interested based on the mutual and amicable conversations you guys have carried throughout the years. I personally think it's great that you guys can still go back to each other even after all that time of being apart.

 

Perhaps that says something.. ?

[wondering11]

I think there's a pretty good chance he's still interested based on the mutual and amicable conversations you guys have carried throughout the years. I personally think it's great that you guys can still go back to each other even after all that time of being apart.

 

Perhaps that says something.. ?

 

Thanks for the input. Yes, I mean we started dating 12 years ago. Broke up 8 years ago... That he will still think of our past means a lot to me.

[crederer]

It could be that he's interested. It could be that he is simply curious as to what's been going on with you. I keep in contact with ex's from time to time, simply out of curiosity.

 

But you never know until you find out!

[wondering11]

well after a phone conversation where we just began to scratch the surface, we were cut short by his battery dying. he followed up with sentimental texts... but nothing now after a week. he is engaged though he said they have a fragile relationship and no date or plans for the wedding. i am a bit angry thinking he reached out to me just for attention and/or validation because he is in a ****ty relationship!

[aisuru]

well after a phone conversation where we just began to scratch the surface, we were cut short by his battery dying. he followed up with sentimental texts... but nothing now after a week. he is engaged though he said they have a fragile relationship and no date or plans for the wedding. i am a bit angry thinking he reached out to me just for attention and/or validation because he is in a ****ty relationship!

 

UH OH...

 

That's no bueno. Do not be his support system. EWWW.