trolleybai23 Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Well, my name is Dermot I'm 13. My girlfriend broke up with me last sunday because of talking problems (etc not talking a lot when we're out) she wanted us to be 'best friends' then I said okay till things start to work out and all. We texted until friday,she never texted me. She went to this disco friday night and I trusted her (like not to snog/kiss any other boys and all. Her best friend was with my gf at the disco. At about 11.00pm her best friend sent me a pic of her snogging another boy and when I seen it I nearly took a heart attack and couldn't stop crying!:'( then I checked her facebook and it usta say 'love dermot so much<3' now it says 'love jamie so much:*:*!' I feel very heartbroken because I've been with her nearly a year. ! I loved and cared for her. Then I went to meet her and her friends in town saturday the day after, her friend came and said to me 'f**k off dermot 'jane (my ex) and jamie are so happy together!'. I seen jane and she had her phone out texting and she couldn't stop smiling and laughing then her and her friends just walked away (I was guessing she was gonna meet her new boy,jamie)! I'm really heartbroken and hurt and I thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with her!:'(!!!!!!</3!!!! Anyway 2 days on and I'm starting a wee bit to get over her, I'm still angry cuz she's going steady with her new bf!:'( I deleted her number and deleted her from BBM and deleted her from facebook. :'(!please help
CorridorE Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Don't worry, you are sooo young, you'll be over her quickly and in a few years you'll look back on this situation and hardly even remember it, I promise. Girls and guys alike at your age are fickle and just beginning to find out what they want from a relationship. You're going to meet so many girls throughout your teens and 20s and even after that that will be much better suited for you to 'spend the rest of your life with.' I believe you that you care about her a lot and it's hard when you lose your 'first love,' but trust me, you'll get through it. And good for you for deleting her number and off fb! Not seeing her photos and messaging her will help you heal. (And I blame some of this on her age, but stating how much she loves her new bf on fb after less than a week shows immaturity. It won't last.) Stay away from her friends as well - they only want to stir up drama. Feel better hun, you'll be fine!
maturityassets Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 You're only 13. I had two teenage relationships and they were very short and not really worthy to call "First love". First love is when you're matured to a point where it took a while to first say "I love you" to each other. That there is some sanctity to those words. When you take it slow in being physical intimate and explore each others bodies. My relationship with my first love recently ended and I'm 20. So look, you will get over this eventually and you won't even remember this girl significantly as you get older. You're so young. You don't know who you are yet, you don't know what is going to change about you in the future. You don't know how your taste are going to change or who your friends will be. You will have quick interactions with women at parties and you will have lengthy crushes. You will learn what makes a man desirable to a women and you will learn what qualities you like in women. You have so much future. Just focus on school and avoiding bad habits. Your relationship couldn't have been love, it was pure attraction. It takes a "wee bit" of growing up before you can have real intimacy (talking wise) where you feel you can talk about the guilt you feel for things from your past, the emotional struggles, what you search for in a partner, what you hope to aspire to, your values, your dreams, your anxieties, your fears. This will all come in time.
McDonald Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 13!? You should be kissing girls!!!! now its bed time.
McDonald Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 13!? You should be kissing girls!!!! now its bed time. Shouldnt****
Ale khun Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I wish I was 13 again with this "experience" but one thing is for sure no matter how odd this sounds , all that anger and pain will go away , it just takes a little bit of time .
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