NYC-BigKat Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Thats what the secretary from work said to me on friday . Could she be right? She says I'm a nice enough guy & I'm starting to earn a pretty good living but with no car or ability to drive is really hurting my chances. I asked my close buddy about it & he says driving a car will lift my confidence & I'll get noticed better. Um...I'm starting to believe this 'cause nothing else has worked in getting attracted & I do see some lame guys with girls in cars alot so maybe .
SmileFace Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 How much guys you know in NyC without a car with a girl? It will help but it isn't the reason you are single. 2
Author NYC-BigKat Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 How much guys you know in NyC without a car with a girl? It will help but it isn't the reason you are single. I dont know any nope. Since u say its gonna help then I need to learn how to drive but right now I just cant. Driving seems like u gotta do so many things at once to not get into a accident & I cant think of any other reason except I am so nice so girls get bored with that alot .
soccerrprp Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 That's a no-brainer. Mobility is very important. But, you live in NY? In the city? I can't imagine many people owning their own cars there. Am I wrong?
FitChick Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 You don't need a car in the city. If anything, it's a liability. That was just a convenient excuse she used. When people go to New York State or Connecticut, they rent a car. But you don't drive and I don't recommend learning in NYC because you will have a nervous breakdown. 3
SmileFace Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Well I do know tons of guys over the age of 23 that do just fine with out a car in the city. However it will help. You should get your license even if you don't plan on getting a car right now. Zip cars are pretty cheap and convenient 1
gaius Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Pretend you're an environmentalist and can't stand what all the carbon emissions are doing to the atmosphere. Works for all the guys who don't drive here in Massachusetts. 5
Author NYC-BigKat Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Well I do know tons of guys over the age of 23 that do just fine with out a car in the city. However it will help. You should get your license even if you don't plan on getting a car right now. Zip cars are pretty cheap and convenient I guess driving a car will make me look a little bit more confident to girls? I dont know & I already failed the road test twice & when I went back to take more lessons the instructor started shouting at me & said I cant park right so u know...but um, walking around looks so lame when I see so many guys in cars with girls next to them. Its like everyone is driving out here even when theres trains & buses to ride on .
2sure Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Even people that live in NYC and have cars and a place to park them...rarely drive them. I lived there most of my life.
rester Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I think it depends on the local culture. If it's a culture of cars and driving, it could be a liability to not have a car. In places like NYC, San Francisco, Seattle, etc. I think it's easy to get away without owning one. If you only take taxis occasionally, the yearly expense of them can be much cheaper than than owning a car.
2sure Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 It is funny how this behavior is acceptable in NYC especially when you run a business. For being treated so rudely they should have lost your business and you should have demanded an immediate refund for their unprofessional handling of the lessons. There are plenty of other driving schools. Driving in NYC is usually accompanied by being screamed at and screaming. Maybe this was an additional lesson the instructor threw in as a bonus. 3
SmileFace Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Driving in NYC is usually accompanied by being screamed at and screaming. Maybe this was an additional lesson the instructor threw in as a bonus. Haha, he should have tipped him. Haha 1
SorayaM Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Thats what the secretary from work said to me on friday . Could she be right? She says I'm a nice enough guy & I'm starting to earn a pretty good living but with no car or ability to drive is really hurting my chances. I asked my close buddy about it & he says driving a car will lift my confidence & I'll get noticed better. Um...I'm starting to believe this 'cause nothing else has worked in getting attracted & I do see some lame guys with girls in cars alot so maybe . If you want to attract a woman who is materialistic, judgmental, and shallow...go on ahead and buy the car to impress them. Just don't be surprised if the relationship fails to work. Cars = responsibility. They require maintenance, gas, and other expenses that you must keep up with to allow you to enjoy your driving privileges. This means shelling out more MONEY weekly/monthly. If you are willing to take on these expenses that come with owning a car, which you obviously do not need, just to be looked at by women...something is not right. If you want to get a car for yourself then fine. Use your hard earned money to buy yourself a ride and to help you get from point A to B. Never go all out to try and attract "simple" women. They never stick around even if you go through great lengths to appease their shallow needs. In conclusion: You live in NY ffs. There are more people without cars in NY than those who have them and I am sure they have no problem attracting people. Again it depends on what type of woman you want to attract. But all in all I wouldn't do it for women if I were you. I'd do it because I need/want it for myself. 1
Woggle Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 This shouldn't matter in NYC. It's not like most other places.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Thats what the secretary from work said to me on friday . Could she be right? She says I'm a nice enough guy & I'm starting to earn a pretty good living but with no car or ability to drive is really hurting my chances. I asked my close buddy about it & he says driving a car will lift my confidence & I'll get noticed better. Um...I'm starting to believe this 'cause nothing else has worked in getting attracted & I do see some lame guys with girls in cars alot so maybe . If you're a man, stop taking dating advice from women. They don't know what they're talking about. 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 I have to agree but some women will get upset and use their own experience as the gospel of truth. I rather have almost nothing and get into a relationship because she will like me for me not for what I have or can provide whereas a guy that has pretty much everything can be left in the dust. Yes its true but I cant find any girls to like me or my buddy. I dont know what else to do u know . Why isn't being polite, having a job, dressing ok, making the 1st move, being a good listener, helpful, college degree still not enough for these girls???
Star Gazer Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Do you actually live in one of the boroughs of NYC?
mortensorchid Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 You have no car? My last bf had no car, he had to take the bus everywhere. I didn't mind, either I would go to his place or I would pick him up as close to me as possible. I think he was secretly ashamed of it, but then again he was/is a loser. Transportation is important if not vital to seeing one another. Unless you live in NYC or some other city where a vast majority of people get around by other means, I would get a car ASAP. It would help you.
Revolver Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Chris rock said it best, women can't move back in lifestyle. Once a woman dates a man with a car for the first time that's how she rolls for the rest of her life 1
ascendotum Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I asked my close buddy about it & he says driving a car will lift my confidence & I'll get noticed better. Um...I'm starting to believe this 'cause nothing else has worked in getting attracted & I do see some lame guys with girls in cars alot so maybe . Did all your other friends with cars, start hi-5'ing each other soon after they got their first car and their love life suddenly took off? I guess it depends how far you live out of the city center as to how much it could inconvenience your life. Only get a car to suit your life style not just as a knee jerk reaction to this secretary. Its 1 knock back...wait till you see a trend. Don't tell them you don't have a car and just borrow your dad's to get by initially. How will you get noticed better -> .unless you curb crawl for pickups or hang out at carparks. Walking around a nite club twirling your Honda keyring ain't gonna do it either.
Ed the 3rd Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 In this day and age cars are stupidly expensive even in places like where I live where you desperately need them. Money > women every time my friend.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 If you live in NYC you don't need a car. I live in Ohio and I wouldn't date a guy who couldn't drive BUT in Ohio you don't have many things you can really do for fun that are close I don't think that makes you undatable
GravityMan Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 When I took my trip to NYC last year, 5 minutes of walking around in Queens and Manhattan was enough for me to conclude that a car is not necessary in NYC, and driving it during your daily routine is likely going to be MORE annoying than simply taking the subway. So, OP...you not having a car isn't your problem. That secretary isn't very bright. I think your struggles come from within. Your posts come across to me as "soft", unassertive, low self-esteem and I sense a slight bit of depression. If you're giving off that vibe IRL...that's likely the real reason women never seem interested in you. Now, for guys living in large urban sprawl cities like Houston or LA...not having a vehicle is far more likely to be a turnoff to women. Forget about women for a bit...in those cities you'll likely need a car just to get around town, period. (Houston has mass transit...but it's a joke compared to NYCs.) Not having your own transportation in these areas may impact you in other areas of life (besides dating), such as having more difficulty getting a job.
clia Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I agree that you don't need a car in NYC. However, not knowing how to drive is more troubling. If you go anywhere other than NYC that is a skill you will need. I would find it strange if I met a guy who didn't know how to drive. 1
Mr_Flay Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I live in a city with only one million inhabitants and I don't need my car at all. It sits there on the parking lot gathering dust and fallen flowers from the nearby trees. My flat is near the centre, so I have everything I need within walking distance. If I need to go beyond that, there's always the efficient public transport. So my car is all cost and little benefit to me right now.
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