kool Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 My ex and I have been broken up for a month and a half now. We were together for four years. She deleted me as a friend on facebook right after the break up because she couldn't handle seeing my pics with my friends (some are girls) I recently found out she blocked me on facebook. I have never sent her a message on facebook. I only sent her a few text messages wondering how she was doing. But I didn't get any replies. I have a setting where people who aren't my friends can't see my pictures. I have commented and liked a few pictures of her friends but is that a really big deal? My question is why would she block me a month later if we weren't friends on facebook already?
CelticGibson Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 My question is this: Why are you letting it bother you what she does? Do you want to hear that it's possible that her new love asked her to block you because he didn't like seeing your posts or likes on her friend's timeline? Or simply that she blocked you to get you out of her head so she can move on. Facebook is the great evil when it comes to relationship and break ups. It's the virtual "rubbing it in your face". You text her and she has ignored them. That's your cue to move on and leave her alone. Just forget her and move on and stay NC...
DontBreakEven Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 you don't really make much sense. in your first post you said that you initiated the break up and broke her heart by telling her that you were not in love with her. then you said you wanted her back but all you've been doing is sending her breadcrumb texts saying you hope you can be friends and hope you're doing well. really? if you want her back then SHOW HER! of course she blocked you. you broke her heart. and now you're just acting like the aloof ex who just contacts the dumpee every now and then to alleviate your guilt and make sure she hasn't jumped off the brooklyn bridge .. at least, trust me, that's how she is seeing it. you sure aren't acting like someone who wants her back. 1
BustedUpInside Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 if you want her back then SHOW HER! This.............just...........this!!
templeofmax Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 you don't really make much sense. in your first post you said that you initiated the break up and broke her heart by telling her that you were not in love with her. then you said you wanted her back but all you've been doing is sending her breadcrumb texts saying you hope you can be friends and hope you're doing well. really? if you want her back then SHOW HER! of course she blocked you. you broke her heart. and now you're just acting like the aloof ex who just contacts the dumpee every now and then to alleviate your guilt and make sure she hasn't jumped off the brooklyn bridge .. at least, trust me, that's how she is seeing it. you sure aren't acting like someone who wants her back. So, how would someone that wants her back act even if one is the dumpee?
Hockeyguy19 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 So, how would someone that wants her back act even if one is the dumpee? If she dumped you, there's little you can do, not without pushing her further and further away. Trust me on that one from experience. She left for a reason, feelings changed or someone else came into her life, but whatever the reason, there is not much you can do to change her mind. You can try flowers, gifts, her favorite drinks etc but it may not go over the way you plan so just prepare yourself for that, it hurts like hell.
Author kool Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 I have been doing the NC thing every person keeps saying I should do but I am starting to think it doesn't work in my case. How do I show her I want her back now if I can't reach her. Do I go through mutual friends?
templeofmax Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 If she dumped you, there's little you can do, not without pushing her further and further away. Trust me on that one from experience. She left for a reason, feelings changed or someone else came into her life, but whatever the reason, there is not much you can do to change her mind. You can try flowers, gifts, her favorite drinks etc but it may not go over the way you plan so just prepare yourself for that, it hurts like hell. Well, it was more a spur of the moment kind of thing for something I did, not cheating or anything, but something that pissed her off! I know its not other guy and she still has my pics on her FB. However, I have read that going no contact for a month may work on my favor while I work on improving myself and maybe try to show her that I changed. That will give her time to miss me and wonder what happened to me, especially as I am usually pushy.
templeofmax Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I have been doing the NC thing every person keeps saying I should do but I am starting to think it doesn't work in my case. How do I show her I want her back now if I can't reach her. Do I go through mutual friends? Going through MUTUAL friends may work, but not if you ask them to contact her, but more as asking how she doing and that you really wish you could speak with her, showing that you care without being pushy! Eventually, friends may relay the message to her and work in your favor, but I am thinking you have to be patient with it.
Author kool Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Are there any other methods to contact her?
DontBreakEven Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 um .. NC is what people do to heal because either they, or the other person doesn't want the relationship anymore. clearly you were the one who backed out .. i'm unsure what you are doing NC for, to manipulate her? or allow her to heal and move on with her life? (as you should be doing as the dumper). i'm sorry but you make absolutely no sense.
emva07 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 wait? but if you broke up with her because you don't love her why do you want her back? 1
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