Janel30 Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 My husband and I have been together for longer then 11 years, we have recently split up, I felt very lonely in our marriage, he never talked to me, gave me affection, sex or anything. Upon our split up we decided to try again, we have been hanging out again but I still don't feel like we will be able to move forward, he has agreed to counseling but the truth of the matter is he does not sexually satisfy me, or emotionally satisfy me......I feel like I am settling. Should I end this marriage just because the sex is not great at all, I feel like he is a very selfish person when it comes to this, he only wants me to please him orally and never returns the favor and if he does he's rushing and complaining the whole time he also finishes so fast he never gives me the chance to enjoy myself he just says "I'll get ya next time" when I brought this to his attention he just said well maybe I need a magic pill and that I am not a man and that men can not control their urge to finish fast.....PLEASE HELP!!
Simpleoldschool Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Understand premature ejaculation is embarassing. To be honest he must be strongly attracted to you so uncontrolable during a sexual expierience in his nervousness he ejaculates. It can get better in time and how YOU approach the situation. Sexual activity might be embarassing to him because he views it as stressfull beilieving he cant satisfy you. This things can get better with time, and help from you. Please dont be selfish. You may want sex but venture to understand his feelings rather than validating your own.
Simpleoldschool Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I misunderstood. If he carelessly uses you sexually then he has alot to learn. See where couenseling takes you. Go to talk, not extend an argument.
Techie Artist Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 My husband and I have been together for longer then 11 years, we have recently split up, I felt very lonely in our marriage, he never talked to me, gave me affection, sex or anything. Upon our split up we decided to try again, we have been hanging out again but I still don't feel like we will be able to move forward, he has agreed to counseling but the truth of the matter is he does not sexually satisfy me, or emotionally satisfy me......I feel like I am settling. Should I end this marriage just because the sex is not great at all, I feel like he is a very selfish person when it comes to this, he only wants me to please him orally and never returns the favor and if he does he's rushing and complaining the whole time he also finishes so fast he never gives me the chance to enjoy myself he just says "I'll get ya next time" when I brought this to his attention he just said well maybe I need a magic pill and that I am not a man and that men can not control their urge to finish fast.....PLEASE HELP!! About to be 10 years marriage. Mine will try to satisfy me orally/manually, but incapable of long or energetic sex. If he is physically agile and it's just ED, he needs to see a doctor. If he's weak or doesn't have stamina for some health reason, he needs to compensate with dedication to your cause. There is no "get ya later". There are repercussions to a woman not completing...can cause uterine cramping. Worst case, finish yourself in front of him and then thank yourself out loud. If that doesn't motivate him to do better, he's not willing to put in the work. As for the marriage, sex is either a reflection of the intimacy or the energy. Teens can go and go because of energy...not necessarily intimacy. Those older folks of us put in the work out of worship to the temple (loving the other person's body). If he isn't a kid, then he should be a man and worship your temple. He needs a counselor or a doctor and straight feedback from you. If you don't love him enough to wait, you need to tell him now. If you do, kick his arse now before you throw in the towel or find someone else who tickles your fancy.
Mr. Lucky Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 but the truth of the matter is he does not sexually satisfy me, or emotionally satisfy me...... Uh...what does that leave? He meets your needs for companionship ??? Mr. Lucky 1
GuyInLimbo Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 The guy sounds like a selfish prick. And he also sounds quite immature. Either you guys go to MC or call it a day. This doesn't sound like a guy willing to be a good partner, quite frankly. This has been going on for 11 YEARS! At what point do you accept the fact he's not good for you? Trust me, there are plenty of guys who are ready and willing to rock your world ten times over and in other ways as well. There are plenty of people out there who can make you happy in all the ways your H has basically ignored your entire relationship. I doubt the dynamic will ever change between you two.
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