Zammo25 Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I posted a while back about getting my cd's and dvd's back. As it transpires she decided to give away from lifetime collection of cd's around 300 plus to a charity shop. Many loved cd's. She said when we split up she would give them to a mutual friend when she saw him and I found this out. All she had to do was to contact him about collecting them but she did this. How would you feel and react ?
aisuru Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Wow, that sucks. How much time went between your breakup and her donating the dvds/cds? I know I like to swap belongings pretty quickly. Some people like to drag it out.
Author Zammo25 Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 Wow, that sucks. How much time went between your breakup and her donating the dvds/cds? I know I like to swap belongings pretty quickly. Some people like to drag it out. 6 months I guess. Not sure. I took her word on the fact she would give them to a mutual friend. Is this pretty bad ? I think so.
TaraMaiden Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Actually, that does suck.... I left some garden plants, in some fairly elegant pots, with a friend. I told her I needed her to look after them for me, until I got my garden in order... I had moved back to the UK from abroad, and I didn't have the facilities there and then, to include all the plants in the move... and I had no idea what kind of home I'd be moving in to..... There was a lot of money invested in those plants and their pots. Some were quite big, a couple were actually quite rare.... When I finally managed to go back to pick them up, I found she'd taken them all out of the pots and put them into her garden. And she had done this about a week after I had given them to her. So 6 months down the line, they were completely established in her garden, and almost impossible to uproot and re-pot. But she let me have the pots back. So yeah, actually, that does suck. But in time, you'll be able to let it go. Unfortunately, that's all you can do.
Author Zammo25 Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 Actually, that does suck.... I left some garden plants, in some fairly elegant pots, with a friend. I told her I needed her to look after them for me, until I got my garden in order... I had moved back to the UK from abroad, and I didn't have the facilities there and then, to include all the plants in the move... and I had no idea what kind of home I'd be moving in to..... There was a lot of money invested in those plants and their pots. Some were quite big, a couple were actually quite rare.... When I finally managed to go back to pick them up, I found she'd taken them all out of the pots and put them into her garden. And she had done this about a week after I had given them to her. So 6 months down the line, they were completely established in her garden, and almost impossible to uproot and re-pot. But she let me have the pots back. So yeah, actually, that does suck. But in time, you'll be able to let it go. Unfortunately, that's all you can do. Thanks TM. I know we have not always seen eye to eye but I thought it was shocking behaviour to be honest. It is like my memory is worth nothing more than trash. A disgraceful last act in my book.
TaraMaiden Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I was very angry and resentful towards my friend, and to be honest, we've rarely spoken since then... However that is really because of several incidents that have occurred since then - and not all to do with me, directly. But insofar as the incident itself is concerned, I had to let that go. I had no choice. it hurt for a while, but difficult as it was, I had to face that actually, all those things were replaceable... Sure, I had to invest some money, and start all over again...it was a wrench. But it's over now; done with. I have a new garden, I have the plants I love. And that person is out of my life. The similarities of the situations are on a parallel.
Author Zammo25 Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 I was very angry and resentful towards my friend, and to be honest, we've rarely spoken since then... However that is really because of several incidents that have occurred since then - and not all to do with me, directly. But insofar as the incident itself is concerned, I had to let that go. I had no choice. it hurt for a while, but difficult as it was, I had to face that actually, all those things were replaceable... Sure, I had to invest some money, and start all over again...it was a wrench. But it's over now; done with. I have a new garden, I have the plants I love. And that person is out of my life. The similarities of the situations are on a parallel. I agree we have to move on TM. Just really pissed me off !
AKisBaked Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 That really sucks... I don't know what happened to any of my stuff that I gave my ex... It could be donated or given away to all I know at this point.... But finding out that your cherished gifts to the person you thought that would always cherish everything you gave them do that... that really hurts.. Sorry to hear that. From this point on you have to just pick up your sh*t and move on.
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