dovahkiin Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I've dated my well, step cousin (no blood relation) for 7 months. I'm 23 and he's 25. We've known each other for about 3 years before becoming a couple. But I wasn't that close to him in the beginning. Anyways, a month ago he broke up with me without saying why, he just said "this isn't working out". I was staying at his parent's house at that time, and he asked me to move out because according to him, if I continue to stay there, it will be hard for him to get over me. He also wanted 2 weeks of NC. After 2 weeks of NC, I called him up and ask the reason of the break up. He said that a few days before the actual break up, his love for me has diminished and he was contemplating on whether to stay in the relationship or to break up with me. We had a fight a few days later and he decided to break up with me. He said that he was investing energy into the relationship but wasn't feeling satisfied. He also said that during the break up, he still loved me a little bit and after 2 weeks of NC, he said that he wasn't in love with me anymore and try to unlove me to get rid of any residual feelings. Last Friday I moved back into my step-aunt's house (she promised my mum that she'll take care of me) but only till Sunday. I usually stay in her house only during the weekends. And while I was there I noticed a change of behaviour with my ex. He used to have drinking problems and was trying to stop/minimize his drinking habit a few months before I started dating him. I'm not much of a drinker and whenever he was out with me, he only drinks Ice Tea and occasionally a beer, and that's it. He only gets drunk like..once ever 2 months or so when there's a big party going on. He also had problems with weed, he smoked a hell lot of weed before and stopped when he was dating me, also because I don't smoke. After he broke up with me, I notice that he's been getting drunk a lot more and started smoking weed again. Going to a bar, coming home late and wasn't concentrating on his studies. I was way more heartbroken than he is, but I tried keeping it together and still got good results for my tests and whatnot. He said he doesn't know why he fell out of love with me because I've been a good girlfriend and didn't do anything wrong. I don't know but for some reason I just think that he was bored with me. Like being with me dulls his life up, because I don't drink a lot and don't smoke. He's a smart guy but he's just super lazy and I value education a lot and I do tell him now and then that he has to work a little bit harder so that he won't fail his subjects (he fails 1 or 2 subjects every semester). And he probably felt that he was forced to grow up when he's with me. And now that we've broken up, I feel like he thinks I'm a loser for having less of a social life than he has. But I don't know, that's just my opinion.
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