strozzap Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 How not to be a bored or how to get people to like you... Every single website or people will tell you the same damn advice: "Ask questions to the person you're talking to..." "Try to make them talk about themselves 'cause people like to talk about themselves..." Hey the problem here is this is a good advice for people who tend to always talk about themselves and who never let the other person talk... But what about those who never have anything to say? That's the worst advice you can get! People don't only want to talk, they also want to be entertained, they want to hear about you, they want to know interesting stories and they want you to make them laugh... So someone like me who's searching on Google "how not to be boring" will simply never find any answer! How about I ask here! How can I have interesting conversations, make people laugh, entertain them? What is it that people like to hear? How can we magically make a conversation fun and not always so serious! This is an important thing to learn for dating because hey! the person you're dating can already predict the next 3 months of the relationship (3 months if you're lucky!) What would be your advice on how to have more entertaining conversations? Thank you!
tricolors Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 For me, I've always dated women I already know I have a lot in common with. I've never done online dating or been on a blind date. It's never, ever been hard for me to keep talking or keep her talking. If you're with the right person, being able to converse with someone fluidly shouldn't even be a challenge. It's also good to quickly build shared experiences with someone...go out on interesting activity dates that lets you take some of the burden off. Not only does it make you have to talk less, it gives you something to talk about in the future. Can you really learn how to make people laugh? I'm not sure. That would depend on the person in question...it really boils down to, again, being with the right person. I don't think there's a one size fits all answer here. 1
BluEyeL Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 The advice you find on the internet is actually pretty spot on. Ask questions until you find something that the other person likes to talk about and that gets them going. I was talking with a guy on the phone and I asked him questions, he was the only one talking. He later told me that "you hold graet conversations!":laugh: Really, I wasn't telling any stories. But anyway, it shouldn't be just one way, when you tell stories, the key of not being boring is not to be too detailed and keep them short and simple. People's attention spans are pretty short ) With all these being said, if you have a connection, it should feel effortless, like tricolors said above.
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