Missy1171 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Hello to all! Great advice forum. Here is a question: Do guys like sexually aggressive women? I mean like my situation is me and this guy have been fooling around for like 5 mths. Not dating, just messing around. Well we have sex and its great but sometimes I want it and I'm not real sure if he does. Would most guys like it if the girl made the move? Or would I come across like a slut? Which I'm not, so I don't want him to think I am? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
UCFKevin Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 It's not slutty at all. I think it's hot.
re3rocks Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 well just remember that comercial for deordarant "men think about sex ever 2.5 seconds, what about his deordarant? "
soccorsilly Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Oh go for it! As a guy, I love an aggressive woman and appreciate NOT having to take the lead ALL the time! Besides, I think that it is the rare man that will NOT be into it! Every 2.5 seconds--do the math the odds are with you!
surfergirl Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 I love it .......I've always been shy and withdrawn but after my divorce ..... I came out of my shell. I love younger men too....so much to teach them. I just turned 33 last week and hoping to get a new boy toy for my birthday but haven't found just the right one yet..... Not anyone will do they have to meet certain requirements!!! I have not been turned down yet, not to say that I won't, but the guys I've gone after have all said the same thing that they too love an aggressive lady. Tell em' what you want and how you want it and most will be glad to abide.
Naive Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 I think it's always great for a man or a woman when a woman takes the initiative at least once in a while! It would get boring if it's ALWAYS the guy getting some when he wants it. We have needs to and when we want some it's only fair to pounce on our SO!
Bubbles Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Take it from me..........Men LOVE sexually aggressive women. There's no guessing for them................we want it...............WE WANT IT NOW! tee, hee, hee. What's wrong with that? If your friend is giving you signals like you don't think he's into it - then just ask him. Ask him if you are possibly more aggressive than he expected you to be? If he says yes, then ask him if he thinks he can handle it? If he says YES - ATTACK! If he says no.......well then YOU need to re-evaluate your relations with him. Are you willing to become more submissive or quiet/shy because HE prefers to be the seducer or the aggressor? Beleive me honey............there would be a lot less men cheating on their wives if we were ALL sexualy aggressive. See how you feel with your man? Can you imagine being married to somebody with whom you never knew was into you? or even attracted to you and you have all this sexual energy? Most women are NOT sexually aggressive (I'm sure present Loveshack company is excluded here........we are all pretty open-minded!) but look around you in your own neighborhood. The women who are not happy are usually the ones who think that it is their husbands "job" to let them know when they are in the mood. Heck with that............I don't wait! I let my man know that I am in the mood......I don't bitch.................I act! Bubbles
Author Missy1171 Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 Hi I justed wanted to say thanks to everybody for your advice. I was never worried about this kinda thing when I was younger, I'm 32 now. But here is what started all of it. I was dating/living with/ engaged to a guy for 3 yrs. Everything was fine until he got in to the Yahoo chat crap with web cams and all that. I mean he was having cyber sex with everybody! He knew I didn't like it but did it anyway. That should have been a clue there that he didn't care what I thought. Well one night I was "in the mood" so I took a long bath and did all the girly stuff. I put on a garter belt, thong, and everything. I went into the living room where is is sitting talking to some naked chick online and asked if he wanted to You know? And he looked at me and said no I'm busy!! So that kinda has made me very insecure about it all. I mean I don't get it. I mean he was talking to that girl about sex and stuff but didn't want to do it with me. It made me think I was ugly or too agressive or something. But I know I'm not really ugly, atleast other guys don't think so. So I just figured that guys wanted to do the chasing. But thank you so much for letting me see he was just a perverted a**h***!!!
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Originally posted by Missy1171 Well one night I was "in the mood" so I took a long bath and did all the girly stuff. I put on a garter belt, thong, and everything. I went into the living room where is is sitting talking to some naked chick online and asked if he wanted to You know? And he looked at me and said no I'm busy!! Oh man what a TOOL! Did you break up with him?
loveregardless Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 he was having cyber sex with people and the teo of you were together. drama where's your mustang babe I need to borrow it for a minute....what an unbeleivable ass. beyond that...what a moron!
savethedrama4allama Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Oh loveregardless, when it rolls off the line you can borrow it to squish this guy, can you drive a stick? Seriously, what a toolshed.
Author Missy1171 Posted September 30, 2004 Author Posted September 30, 2004 Thanks guys! I know he is a total jerk now. Well the night all that happened I left and went to my Sisters, and stayed for a week. Well I went back to the apt to get my stuff and he begged and cried that he loved me and was sorry and all the BS. So like an idiot I went back. 6 mths later he is still doing the cyber thing and lying about it. Well then we started getting alot of hang ups on the phone. So I found out accidently that he was meeting some of these women! He was actually having them meet him after work and crap. And telling me that he had to work late. I found out all kinds of stuff, but I won't bore you with the details. Anyway I left that time. I took off work one day and while he was gone I packed and left. I never even confronted him about it. When he called me and asked why I told him he already knew. That was almost 1 yr ago. He still calls and wants me to go out with hm but I won't do it. He finally asked me how I knew all the stuff but I never did tell him. Oh well he can suffer and maybe next GF he won't be such an A$$ to. Anyway thanks again for listening. 1
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