Ethansdaddy Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 OK so bear with me here. im new and this is my first post. so here goes. my girlfriend of 3 years who we have a 2 year old son with decided to leave me for someone else. and im having a really hard time coping with it. i love her so much and just want her back that im wiling to do anything i have to. background on the whole thing: weve been togother for 3 years. we broke up before we found out about our son who was yet to be born and we tried then to make it work but it didnt. out son was born and im gonna be honest i tired to be around but i wasnt sure if i wanted to be with her at the time. then finally i did realize i was still in love with her and wanted to come back to her. she was dating someone else and a short time later she left that guy to come back to me. that was december of 2011. so a year and change has gone by, and things were up and down. her parents never really like me and always made me feel like i wasn't good enough for her and this and that. because of the way they treated her i never liked them anyway. we never lived together cuz we were working ****ty jobs and money was tight. but we did the best we could. well we would fight all the time cuz we couldn't agree on things etc. never meant i stopped loving her. well within the last year as times would get bad i felt i was being pushed away with all the fighting all the time. i started talking to some new people and what not thinking breaking it off was the best thing to do. but again i didn't. this went on for awhile. kinda on and off. it kinda went along with how she was treating me. well she one night slept over and a few times went on my labtop and phone and saw things that she shouldn't of. there was a few pics sent and received to. but i never slept with anyone other than her the ENTIRE time we were together. just one person when we were broken up before which was just a one nighter. so whats leading up to this? well our work schedules were very conlficting. when i was working she was off and vice versa. in december 2012 i started school again full time and that made my time even less. the fighting and stuff was pushing me away again and i again talked to others. then i said no i dont want anyone else other than her because i love her so much, i knew it was time to figure out how to change this relationship for the better. i told her im taking a 2 week beak to think about all this. how to fix it everything. i did that. figured it all out. all this time she started talking about these new guys friends shes been hanging out with. a friend from work and this friend of his named steve. st pattys day rolls around and co workers of mine have a get together every year so i told her about it and she was like i have plans already. not thinking about it i was ok. then i said why wasnt i invited. she said its not my house to invite people to. normally people invite the couple. not just the one. so that was that. april 7th comes and i get a phone call from my friend that said she sent a mesage to him and others on facebook saying we broke up. then he showed me all kind of pics of them and my son together saying they are a happy family, pics of him and my son etc. she couldnt even tell me. that was the last day of the break. same day i was gonna get her an engagement ring and hang onto to it to give it to her at the right time. so now i find out shes been seeing this guy, having sex with him since march when her and i were still together and she said she was pushed away by me not giving her attention she wanted and after a month he wanted her to move into his house. but i know how to read her. he doesn't. what i get from her is that she is confused on what she wants. after i told her what i had planned to do to fix it changed her tune. now everything thinks that she is confused and doesn't know what she wants. she said she still loves me, but she loves the other guy to. i have to prove to her i can be the guy she fell in love with 3 years ago and there's a list of things i have to do to make it there. but she said she cant do this right now cuz its still a fresh wound and it still hurts and such. but part of her wants to get back to me. shes said it. and she still says i love you and i miss you when we talk about all this and she gets upset. sometimes she is hesitant about saying it saying it hurts. idk. she sounds to me confused on what she wants. sorry if im broken record but its been a month or so now and im still a complete mess. shes being difficult about letting me see my son while the new guys sees him everyday. its not right. i have good Catholic morals and i just wanted to put my family back together. its like i can talk to her and i start getting through to her its like her puts a wall all of a sudden and goes back to him and all is forgotten. but she has admitted that she believes that im serious about wanting to fix this all. i just dont know what to do? any questions that anyone has that would help to figure it out ask away. but what do you guys think. ive tried to let go for now like the if love something let it go and if it comes back its yours. i gave in already. she says she doesnt want to talk but if shes at work shell text me or answer me but she wont when shes with him. ive called her on stuff about confusing and basically he doesnt know hes fighting for her. im fighting for her. and its like thats what she wants me to do. she likes the atention shes getting. i just dont know what to do. please help!
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