My MM is perfect for me but I need to end this relationship, please tell me how?

[KiKi38251]

I am totally confusted right now and didn't know where to turn. I'm embarrassed to talk to my friends about this. There is this guy at work whom I have had a crush on for years. He used to come to a store where I worked before, but I never talked to him or anything because he was married. Three months ago this guy, Derek, was switched to my shift at work. He was constantly coming to my department to talk. He never flirted or anything like that, we just talked and became friends. Then one day he asked if call me so I gave him my number. He never said anything about his wife, so I assumed they weren't together anymore. Then a few weeks later I found out he was still with his wife. I know I should have quit talking to him but couldn't.

 

We've been seeing each other for about three months now. He is the sweetest guy I have ever met. Derek is exactly the kind of guy I have always looked for and figured never existed. He talks about problems with his wife and is constantly asking for my advice. I told him I couldn't give him advice concerning his marriage because I am biased. I just always tell him to calm down and everything will work out.

 

My problem is that I don't think I can continue to see him but I can't ever seem to follow through. I will tell myself I am not going to talk to him or answer the phone when he calls but I always do. I really do care about him. I think the whole situation would be easier to deal with if I felt he was just after sex. Deep down I don't believe that though. He goes out of his way to do things for me and makes me feel so special. If he was just after sex, I don't think he would waste his time doing these other things.

 

Even if he ever left his wife, I know I could never have a relationship with Derek. I always think that he's lying to me and hitting on other girls at work. Everytime I see him talking to girls I start think he's probably getting their numbers like he did with me. I know I need to end this now, because the longer it goes on the harder it will be to later. any advice?

[Merin]

"Derek, I can't see you anymore. I'm sorry, I just don't feel okay with seeing or having sex with someone who is married. Hope it works out in your marriage, good luck"

[Guisi]

KiKi

 

You should stop the close friendship, you can still say hi and bye, because this is how some affairs start. Some people know how to play on your emotions.

 

Most people will talk about their spouse to make you think that he/she is such a bad person. They will ask for advice to appear helpless. They will tell you how he/she don't want to have sex, or the sex isn't good. How all he/she does is nag and complain. This is all a game to draw you closer to him.

 

He will compliment you, tell you how pretty you are, how good you smell, how smart you are. After a while you will start to feel special, because of his fake compliment . Ask him to introduce you to his wife so that the three of you can be friends.