irc333 Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 ...and nothing more. I had recently sent out a email, and actually *gasp* had gotten a response. AN educated 39 year old lady living in the boonies, has no kids (big bonus there) and never married. She addressed pretty much most of my questions about herself from the initial email I had sent her. I typically sometimes scan ahead to see, ".....I'm sorry, but I don't think we'd make a good match, good luck in your search". But I saw none....but she just answered my questions about herself...but...never fired back any questions back in my direction to get to know me. It's like they answer your questions, but don't engage further....does this mean they aren't interested or should I continue to engage in emails with her further?
Philosopher Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 From my experience it is usually not a great sign when answer your questions but do not ask any questions about you in return. That said you don't have anything to lose by continuing to message her, just don't be too surprised if you don't hear back from her. 2
Author irc333 Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 From my experience it is usually not a great sign when answer your questions but do not ask any questions about you in return. That said you don't have anything to lose by continuing to message her, just don't be too surprised if you don't hear back from her. Yeah, I'm used to them to ignoring me or at least telling me they aren't interested. But to remain neutral on the matter, perhaps they lack social skills? Sometimes there's a level of narcissism when people prefer to talk more about themselves than to have any interest in what's going on in your life.
grkBoy Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I'd engage, but also look for other women. She is an option at this point, not a priority. 2
sillyanswer Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 It's like they answer your questions, but don't engage further....does this mean they aren't interested or should I continue to engage in emails with her further? My experience is that these people waste your time, and I presume that they enjoy the attention. Throw them some sort of "so tell me about..." or "what do you think about ..." question and see if you get a response.
Graduate Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I'd say it probably means that she is either not interested, or not sure about it. If I want to be polite and not ignore an email, I will reply but definitely but in a sentence saying something like 'Thank you for your message, but ....' Since she did not do that, she may be on the fence. How did she end her message? You don't have anything to lose, so you might as well send her another message if you are interested. Just make sure it is short. Can you comment on something she said without asking her another question? That way she has the opportunity of not replying without being rude (if that is her concern). If she writes back she is interested. 1
Estate Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 ...and nothing more. I had recently sent out a email, and actually *gasp* had gotten a response. AN educated 39 year old lady living in the boonies, has no kids (big bonus there) and never married. She addressed pretty much most of my questions about herself from the initial email I had sent her. I typically sometimes scan ahead to see, ".....I'm sorry, but I don't think we'd make a good match, good luck in your search". But I saw none....but she just answered my questions about herself...but...never fired back any questions back in my direction to get to know me. It's like they answer your questions, but don't engage further....does this mean they aren't interested or should I continue to engage in emails with her further? Either she is not interested and being polite. Or she is vaguely interested but you're email was just so boring she couldn't be bothered. What was your email like? I mean, did she have to respond to 17 "How was your weekend?" emails or did yours stand out in some way?
Casablanca Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 9/10 not a good sign, one girl I didn't respond to when she didn't ask any questions in her response, the next day asked if it was something she said that put me off...I explained..we did end up meeting, but it didnt go anywhere...another woman I talked with, it was mostly short conversations, decent sized gaps inbetween, didn't answer much, we went out for a month...so just don't expect anything. I didn't expect anything from the last one, I just kept writing with no expectations.
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