edelveis Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Hello everyone.i ve been dating a girl for the last 2 months and things are going well between us but there is something really important for which i need advice. This girl broke up with her boyfriend almost one year before and she is obviously not completely over him.she says to me that we shouldnt talk about it coz what is past is past but its pretty obvious that she is not over him.she shows a lot of interest to me and always says she misses me when i am away but if he is still in her heart its like a huge rik. Do you guys think i might be her rebound guy or she might be using me to get over her ex?if something like that is going on i would prefer to end it now that is still early rather than later no matter how much i like her and how much i am gonna get hurt.what do you think?
soccerrprp Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I can tell you this, THIS IS A DANGEROUS and potentially unwinnable situation. You will need to take things slowly if you are looking for something serious. Far too many men and women who are still emotionally connected to exes go back to them. Just be careful and cautious.
Author edelveis Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 yeah i agree that i ll have to take things really slowly.i am scared though that if we finally be together one day she might dump me if he comes back for her.and i am not prepared to risk it.
Leigh 87 Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 First of all, a year should be enough for someone to move on from their ex, enough to be open to other people. I am madly in love with my ex, but I am even starting to move on NOW, a week after the break up. By a year? Man. A year is a long time to get over someone. Maybe after a year it will sting a bit if he is already madly in love with someone else, but you know, I would be over him mostly. Are you sure she is not over him? My ex thought highly of his ex, but was over her enough to really love me. You know - he was still interested in what she had to say on facebook. If a guy is crazy about someone once, he will likely still hold an interest in them if they are still friends.
Leigh 87 Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 And there is now way I will seriously date anyone, until I can confidently say " I will not leave the new guy if my ex asks to have me back" THAT is the MAIN thing to consider! I AM moving on from my ex, but I was THAT in love with him that, you know, even after a month or two when I casually have fun with other men (no sex just some kisses and fun) I would not consider DATING them seriously, because I know in a HEARTBEAT I would take him back. True love, if you feel it, will not just die away anytime soon, so your best bet after losing a great love, is to stay single for as long as you can really.
Author edelveis Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 Leigh 87 yeah i get your point.u shouldnt move to a next relationship unless you re 100 % sure you re over your ex.thats what a good thinking,mature,caring person would do.but what of is she is too imature to realize it and just playing with me? Last night she did something which confused me a bit.She texted me in the middle of the night saying :" i miss you baby".because i am on a trip and we dont meet the last days.could this message be a good sign?
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