kalena9488 Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I guess I'm just needing someone to try and help me understand what I'm feeling. I've been having these feelings I'll describe for quite some time now and I just don't know what to do anymore. Me and my bf have been together for over 4 years. We have had many issues. Mainly money and weed. He also has three kids under the age of 18. Only one lives at home but he has the other two every other weekend as well. I don't mind the kids we all get along just fine. My problem is mainly the weed. I don't do it and if I had known when I did start going out with him I wouldn't even had went out with him. Long story short I didn't know till I was already invested in a relationship. I guess I'm naïve. Now here we are 4 years later, many promises later, much money I've spent on him wasted and I keep breaking up with him and getting back together with him. I don't think I want to be with him anymore but when I do break up it's like I have this weak moment talk to him and things are okay we get back together and then almost instantly I wish I hadn't. It's becoming a vicious cycle. He's a nice guy, has a job but it doesn't pay well. I'm retired from the military as well as I have a very good paying job, own my own home and can take very good care of myself. He borrows money from me on a weekly basis. He usually pays it back but it still gets old. I think I've just gotten to the point where its just best to write it off and move on. But for some reason I'm not letting myself. But I think Its probably best for all of us if I do.
oracle Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Stop having weak moments. How many more laps do you wanna do? Hell you are from the military.. ur supposed be cut and dry and used to no-nonsense stuff! Its won't change. He brings nothing to the table. Don't waste anymore of your life! RUN 1
CelticGibson Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 This has been going on for four years now and there's been no improvement on his part? He's taking you for granted because he knows that when you want out, he can sweet talk you right back in. Everything you have written shows that you are unhappy and that you just need the courage to do what is right for you. The decision is already made, you are held back because it's easier to stay than it is to go. We all fear loneliness and losing what is familiar to us but some things are just bad news and need to be shed. Walk away and start to heal and you may find someone that compliments your life ethic instead of leaching from it.
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