aisuru Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Broken up 7 weeks, saw him last 3 weeks ago. I'm going on a date tonight with somebody from an OLD site. I'm actually kind of excited to get out of the house for something other than work, gym, or girlfriends. I miss my ex. A lot. I also know our relationship wasn't right for me. I feel rejected that he broke it off and we've hardly spoken since. However, I've been able to gain some breathing room and reevaluate myself and my life, something I wasn't able to do when he was around and I felt slightly suffocated. It'll be nice to get out of the house, flirt a little, and enjoy some male attention. Crossing my fingers I have a good time. Hoping I don't think too much about the ex. 4
Author aisuru Posted May 12, 2013 Author Posted May 12, 2013 What a great night! Great connection. Great conversation. And at least 12 hours straight of awake time that I didn't have one anxious thought about the ex. It felt relaxing and so nice. So glad I did that. Of course, this morning, I do miss the ex. But I find myself realizing we didn't even have that great of a connection the first date we had. Such different nights. 1
rainmayker Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Keep it up girl! Stay strong! I just found out that you have been at this a lot longer than I have, and I certainly feel for you. I have yet to go on a date myself, though. I break NC all the freaking time and it sucks, but somehow I feel better because of it, at the cost of us never getting back together. Hang tight and keep your head up! 1
Author aisuru Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Thanks! Those little bits of contact you're doing are just a temporary bandaid for the emotional pain. Especially if your ex is responding. Eventually, when they stop responding, if you're not prepared, you'll spin out a bit. I know, cause I've done that in previous relationships when I was younger. Take care of yourself. It gets easier. You have to remember there was a reason you broke up. Whether you like it or not and whether you agree with it or not.
Leigh 87 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 2 months from the break up I will be overseas and I too hope to flirt a little and enjoy making connections again. How did it feel to connect with another man again? Did you take it too seriously? Personally, I could not see myself being serious about finding a new partner after 7 weeks. I would really enjoy the notion of just flirting and having fun with men again though. I will be in your position soon enough. I wonder how I will handle it. I hope to have a good time like you did! rainmayker - stay strong, I too took a while to accept that full NC is the best way. I am going to try so hard to stick to it. I do not think I will ever feel READY to give up hope on us, but NC will at least help me go through the motions of never being together again. It is so hard, I am so sorry your going through this too...
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