jeni45667 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 (edited) I have met a guy who is just a great person. He is always chivalrous, making sure I wear enough clothes, giving me rides, and whenever I need help, he will make time to help me in person or chat with me on the phone. He never fails to come through. I suspect he has white night syndrome, but I am not sure, because he's really good looking, successful, and ex-athlete. He lives in a penthouse, drives a fancy car, and heads a big group in the finance field. He's very competitive and loves to win. I am just puzzled about how can he spend so much time helping people and still get ahead. Most guys in his field are selfish. I used to think he helps me because I look cute, but he never flirts with me, but whenever I need something, he jumps out like a 1-800-number. Is he helping me for damsel in distress? Will he ever feel attracted enough to the damsel to ask her out? Edited May 11, 2013 by jeni45667
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 I have met a guy who is just a great person. He is always chivalrous, making sure I wear enough clothes, giving me rides, and whenever I need help, he will make time to help me in person or chat with me on the phone. He never fails to come through. I suspect he has white night syndrome, but I am not sure, because he's really good looking, successful, and ex-athlete. He lives in a penthouse, drives a fancy car, and heads a big group in the finance field. He's very competitive and loves to win. I am just puzzled about how can he spend so much time helping people and still get ahead. Most guys in his field are selfish. I used to think he helps me because I look cute, but he never flirts with me, but whenever I need something, he jumps out like a 1-800-number. Is he helping me for damsel in distress? Will he ever feel attracted enough to the damsel to ask her out? This is why things are working out for him. Typical female response: he has everything that you're looking for, but the only problem you have with him is that he's too nice of a person. LOL 3
todreaminblue Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 I have met a guy who is just a great person. He is always chivalrous, making sure I wear enough clothes, giving me rides, and whenever I need help, he will make time to help me in person or chat with me on the phone. He never fails to come through. I suspect he has white night syndrome, but I am not sure, because he's really good looking, successful, and ex-athlete. He lives in a penthouse, drives a fancy car, and heads a big group in the finance field. He's very competitive and loves to win. I am just puzzled about how can he spend so much time helping people and still get ahead. Most guys in his field are selfish. I used to think he helps me because I look cute, but he never flirts with me, but whenever I need something, he jumps out like a 1-800-number. Is he helping me for damsel in distress? Will he ever feel attracted enough to the damsel to ask her out? soem peopel are altruistic.....doesn't have to be a white knight, but old school altruism....you dont see it much any more....I have only recently come across a bunch of altruists....if everybody helped the person next to them....there would be so much less trouble in the world....... i am sorry to say ....that it doesn't sound romantic in your case......and its quite common for altruistic people to be mistaken for being interested because they are helpful and loving, kind compassionate and it just doesnt seem right today for people to do anything kind with out expecting something back.......i am atruistic(faith orientated) myself...my help has been mistaken for interest.........if he is interested in you he will make it known........sounds like a go getter.....so if he doesn't let you know....appreciate his help for being as such....i wish you happiness.....deb 3
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Omg....some guys just can't freaking win huh??? One of my female friends just broke up with an awesome guy because he ordered Cilantro at deli. Not kidding. Everything was fine before that. 1
BluEyeL Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 One of my female friends just broke up with an awesome guy because he ordered Cilantro at deli. Not kidding. Everything was fine before that. :laugh: That's too much. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 :laugh: That's too much. No, that's the norm.
tbf Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Omg....some guys just can't freaking win huh???She's not knocking him, she's hoping he'll ask her out but as of yet, he hasn't done so. She's looking at his helpfulness as possibly an indication of interest. That's why I'm suggesting she ask him out since she likes him. If he's not interested, she'll know right away and hopefully, this will provide her impetus to move on. If he's interested, WIN! 1
PogoStick Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 I like helping lesbian couples that need a ===) once in awhile. All out of the goodness of my...heart. 1
ascendotum Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 All the great catch guys are already in relationships. Yeah something up, give this one a miss. He is just pretending to care for you, but he really just wants to get in your pants. Creepy phoney nice guy.
Bazukaz Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 All the great catch guys are already in relationships. Yeah something up, give this one a miss. He is just pretending to care for you, but he really just wants to get in your pants. Creepy phoney nice guy. No, that is wrong. Not all great catch guys are in relationships, and the same can be said about women. And some creeps have a string of crying women behind them who they have cheated/used for a short time. Take all suggestions with a grain of salt(including this). Do not take too seriously what people say over the net. The opinions are more often than not too biased. People are different.
tricolors Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 All the great catch guys are already in relationships. Yeah something up, give this one a miss. He is just pretending to care for you, but he really just wants to get in your pants. Creepy phoney nice guy. That's a ludicrous thing to say. 1
ascendotum Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 (edited) That's a ludicrous thing to say. Yeh but plenty of women think that way when it comes to chivalrous, helpful, caring nice guys. Those guys who act as caring friends but really like the girl but don't come out and say it straight up. Plenty of women think such nice guy behavior like this is part of a phoney underhanded act put on by insecure guy. Brazen push for sex early guys are more respected because they are up front in their intentions, unlike sneaky 'nice white knight guy'. Since this guy has very successful career maybe we can dismiss that assessment in this case. Edited May 12, 2013 by ascendotum
El Brujo Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 Sounds to me like he may be one of those guys everyone else thought was going to be a failure, but then he made it and is now rubbing their faces in it. Like they say, your success is the best revenge...
Bazukaz Posted May 12, 2013 Posted May 12, 2013 (edited) Yeh but plenty of women think that way when it comes to chivalrous, helpful, caring nice guys. Those guys who act as caring friends but really like the girl but don't come out and say it straight up. Plenty of women think such nice guy behavior like this is part of a phoney underhanded act put on by insecure guy. Brazen push for sex early guys are more respected because they are up front in their intentions, unlike sneaky 'nice white knight guy'. Since this guy has very successful career maybe we can dismiss that assessment in this case. What plenty of women think is not necessary the single truth, sorry. Edited May 12, 2013 by Bazukaz 1
NateC Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 What plenty of women think is not necessary the single truth, sorry. This. It's possible to be genuinely nice to someone without expecting in return... 1
ja123 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I am just puzzled about how can he spend so much time helping people and still get ahead. Maybe that's just it. He's figured out the karma of creating success: paying it forward.
jenwon Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Sounds like a guy I dated. Was always chivalrous and gentlemanly towards me. I had felt he was being a little too nice and maybe just trying to get in my pants. He ended up dating a mutual friend. We were talking and she told me that he is a bit naïve and is kind of brainwashed about dating from TV & movies, but is genuinely a great person. With all the players and jerks out there, a guy with "white knight" syndrome isn't a bad thing. I regret not giving him a chance because they seem really happy and he treats her like a princess. 1
mortensorchid Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I wouldn't be so quick to judge. Do you know this guy? I mean, are you actually "dating him" or is he just a friend? You won't know if he's too good to be true or if it's a show for getting what he wants.
tbf Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Not sure about the rest of you ladies and gentlemen but for myself, when a guy's being helpful or protective, it's lovely! That's how my husband and I met. He's my close friends' neighbor who helped dig my car out of deep snow.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Where do I get me a white knight? I think that only a guy like that could melt the icy walls that have grown around my heart
pcplod Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 (edited) You say he is not selfish. How do you know? What does 'selfish' look like? Would my 'selfish' recognise your 'selfish'? And brothers who are brought up to be decent beings, treat their sisters really well, once then they have matured beyond the "all girls are yuck" stage. Maybe he is using you as a guinea-pig in a dry run for the 'real thing'? Hence why he isn't flirting with you or asking you out? Is there any hint of "we do it my way"? Some successful, goal-driven people have a proclivity for control in a big way. Who knows? Do you want to keep guessing? It really could be endless. Edited May 13, 2013 by pcplod
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