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Is he emotionally unavailable or taking it slow?


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have been dating this guy for about 6 weeks. We have been seeing each other once a week or so b/c we live about 1.5 hrs away from each other. We are also both in grad school - hence our crazy schedules.

 

He's a very nice guy but he's very reserved and emotionally distant. I know that he has been married and divorced once (through Facebook) but he still has not told me about it. We usually have intellectual and fun discussions but we have not really talked about any deeper emotional or relationship-y stuff. He is also very obsessive about his routine and is not flexible so I get the impression that we also meet on his turf. We are both about to graduate in 2 years time and will have to move so it is possible that he doesn't want to get too emotionally invested.

 

On the other hand, he has introduced me to a lot of friends. He also expressed that he is very attracted to me and spends most of his free time, albeit little, with me. So I know that he is not playing the field. We usually go on dates together but he is not very affectionate or romantic.

 

I really like this guy and I'm not interested in a FWB or casual relationship situation. So I'm worried the lack of emotional connection. Do you think he is serious about me or is he just passing time?

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Hard to tell. My moto - when in doubt - ask! Get in the habit of controlling your own relationship destiny much like you're getting in the habit of influencing your future work path.

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I see him not dwelling on his failed marriage as a positive thing.

 

After my divorce I know I took it day by day before I got in too deep too quickly.

 

As the song goes "once bitten twice shy". Or double wise. :)

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Sounds like a Gemini to me :p

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