saltyfishhead666 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 I met a man online and we met up and have been inseparable for 3 months. He pretty much moved into my house, spent almost all his free time here (when he wasn't working he works 3 hours away). Loved my children and it was perfect. We got engaged a week or so ago and we were both over the moon. On Monday we had a big fight, he'd basically been talking about my family with his friends and I'd asked him not too as they are both in the military (UK) He has mentioned something about it which triggered the argument and he stormed out of the house with his things and didn't even say goodbye. I cooled down and write him an email the next day and got no reply, text him nothing. It's now been almost a week since the argument and I've heard literally nothing. He kicked me off his facebook account and has literally turned silent. I don't have any idea why though? mature adults talk about things and I can't help but feel there is more underlying here but I can't for the life of me think what happened?
aisuru Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Let him go. There are several red flags here. The rejection hurts, I know. Next time, don't rush to such a serious level so quickly. I had just slept with my ex at 3 months of meeting him. You were practically cohabitating and engaged? With children in the picture?
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted May 11, 2013 Author Posted May 11, 2013 Let him go. There are several red flags here. The rejection hurts, I know. Next time, don't rush to such a serious level so quickly. I had just slept with my ex at 3 months of meeting him. You were practically cohabitating and engaged? With children in the picture? Yeah I know, I can see now that that was a massive error, sometime's when something feels right it's simply easy to slip in to that which is what we did. I just don't understand how something can be so perfectly ok and then go to nothing. I'm 25 so not exactly young and he's 35 so again not young and immature.
aisuru Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Find strength in letting go. 25 is young. I'm sorry but it is. You may have more maturity since you have children, but in the grand scheme, you have so many more life experiences to live through. (sigh, I'm starting to sound like my mother in my old age) You will be so grateful that this guy walked away when somebody even more suitable comes into your life. He did you a favor. It's hard right now because he became such an integral part of your life. But since it was just 3 months, hopefully it won't take you so long to get over the rejection and take care of yourself and your children.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted May 11, 2013 Author Posted May 11, 2013 Thank you I hope so too. I think it's simply because he was practically my right arm and now he's gone it's like I'm left with only one, it's a very odd feeling and not something I am used too. I'm just concentrating on doing fun things with the little people and that will get me through. I just think it's all so odd! Thanks for taking the time to respond. I appreciate it.
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