chiaras Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 My ex broke up with 6 months ago, we dated the first time for 6 months and we broke up because he said he will never marry or anything like that because he was white and I was Hispanic. Anyway, I was extremely in love with him and started to hang out again and we started to data again. This time it lasted for other 6 months, he was great during this time. He said he loved me and was very affectionate. Things were going really well, he even asked me to move in with him. I had my doubts about this because he quit his job of 5 years and wasn't sure where to look for a job. Anyway, i try to be supportive of his decision, whichever it were. This not having his mind made up to do something was worrying me, I didnt know how serious he was about living together and not being more proactive on looking how to get around money. I was starting my master degree, and time to work was limited to only part time. Anyway, as the last month we dated, we was very sensitive. He didnt want to have intimacy, and do things. I was trying to be supportive but at the same time, I had tons of loadwork at school, that prevent me from giving him my full attention. He started complaining that we dont hang out as much as often. And when I try to make time for it, then he wouldnt seem to want to anything, anyway. I started to feel that he was distancing from myself, and I asked him if he saw us in the long term. He was reluctant to answer, but then he said that he didnt. He said that he had been seeing that there were many factors that indicate him that we shouldnt be together anymore. His reasons were that i didnt satisfy him sexually (something ive tried to bring up but he never wanted to talk about it), we didnt get along (he said we had been fighting to much), I wasnt in love with him but with the idea of him, that my best friend was a gay boy (he seem to be jealous of him) Anyway, it is been a while since we broke up (6 months). I havent talked to him since we broke up, but I still think about him a lot. I think that most of his reasons are very personal. I felt that he was the one, but he wasnt. My brain knows all of that, but my emotions are still dwelling for him. i dont want that. Please, any advice will help!
aisuru Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 It's hard sometimes to let go of the hope of what could have been if we're not going through the steps to heal ourselves. You should know that you can have that same hope of what could be with somebody new in your life. What are you doing to heal, grow, and move on? Time to break the cycle of dwelling on thoughts of him. It's holding you back.
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