I made a fake profile because I didn't want to be seen online, but now met this woman

[Jadedbyluv]

Why is it such a negative thing for a guy to be on a dating site these days? What society do you live in?

 

But to answer your early question, you have to be honest with her. And you just have to hope for the best. If it doesn't work out, you have to be honest with your self and what you want. If you really want to find someone, be honest with who you are. After all, it is your happiness you're talking about.

[lamaga]

That's so awful... I am imagining right now talking to a guy who would send me fake photos... It's worse than the guy who wrote me and then when I agreed to meet him he told me he was 41 instead of 35.

I just don't get why people lie about their age or put fake photos up...

It's just so deceiving, I don't trust people like that.

If i was that girl I wouldn't trust you either., after this action..

[bu2002]

You need to exit online dating altogether and only jump back in when you're ready and mature enough to handle it. It's clear right now that you're not at ready for this since you're too embarrassed to use it.

 

It's idiots like you who ruin it for the others.

[Estate]

I made a fake profile because I didn't want to be seen on an online dating site. I don't know what to do now. I uploaded photos of a random guy, but now I totally regret it. Should I create a new profile without photos and message her to say I would like to talk to her, but I am willing to send her photos of me?

 

I just don't want to upload photos of me online in case people in the area see I'm on there. I do not want my reputation tarnished by going on a dating site and people seeing me, then people spreading this. I know it's stupid to think like this, but for a guy it's worse if people see me on a dating site - it's not a good for a guy to online date.

 

Should I text her the truth, send her a photo of me and hope she forgives me for it or what do I do? I can't be f****d any more, I just feel I need to be honest. Wow, this was dumb!

 

I am 24, she is 28. She told me she's been on a couple dates, but they didn't go anywhere. I just feel that I've f**ked up big time! She says she likes me and wants me to take her out. Am I screwed?

 

suggestions?

 

It's all a bit pointless, she likes this fake guy, not you.

[apple OR orange]

screwed, women dont like people who lie, no matter how you try to get out of this, your screwed (in a single no sex way).

[Queenie42]

Could I text her and say:

 

"I have a confession to make. My profile pics are not me, but before you think I'm a creep or whatever can you let me to explain myself?"

 

Yep. And not just the photos but every other detail on your profile which isn't honest or correct. If she's still interested, good for you, and don't risk her trust again. If she's not, never mind, chalk it up for experience and move on.

 

The key thing with online dating is this: it takes a lot of bravery to put your personal details up there, especially when every other corner of the internet advises you against it. But in online dating you have to be honest because no relationship will ever work if the first thing you ever tell her is a lie.

[spiderowl]

Just meet her and give your explanation then. Update us afterwards.

Do NOT do this! She will feel deceived and angry and understandably so. Start a new profile, email photos if necessary, but be yourself. She's going to be pretty fed up that the guy she liked the look of isn't contacting her any more though. Basically, it was a stupid thing to do. Women who are looking online get very good at spotting deception and if, heaven forbid, we turn up and he doesn't look like the guy in the picture, then that is big trouble. Imagine if it was the other way round ...

[Charlie Harper]

Tell her that is your real photo before the "accident".... Lol

[CarrieT]

Could I text her and say:

 

"I have a confession to make. My profile pics are not me, but before you think I'm a creep or whatever can you let me to explain myself?"

 

Bad, bad, bad...

 

First off, you don't want to even put the word "creep" into her head. Because as soon as you invoke it, that is exactly what she is going to think.

 

You need to spin it positively for there to be a positive outcome. Make sense? I'm not exactly sure how to do that, based on what you have posted, but I can tell you that whatever you write, is what you want her to have in her head when/if she responds...