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I made a fake profile because I didn't want to be seen on an online dating site. I don't know what to do now. I uploaded photos of a random guy, but now I totally regret it. Should I create a new profile without photos and message her to say I would like to talk to her, but I am willing to send her photos of me?

 

I just don't want to upload photos of me online in case people in the area see I'm on there. I do not want my reputation tarnished by going on a dating site and people seeing me, then people spreading this. I know it's stupid to think like this, but for a guy it's worse if people see me on a dating site - it's not a good for a guy to online date.

 

Should I text her the truth, send her a photo of me and hope she forgives me for it or what do I do? I can't be f****d any more, I just feel I need to be honest. Wow, this was dumb!

 

I am 24, she is 28. She told me she's been on a couple dates, but they didn't go anywhere. I just feel that I've f**ked up big time! She says she likes me and wants me to take her out. Am I screwed?

 

suggestions?

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Firstly, you should not have put a fake profile photo of any kind on said website. You must have NEVER done this before this moment, and I can tell because no one is that uptight about putting their photograph on a website like this. You don't want people in your area to know that you are looking? Well, they are looking as well so why should they be ashamed? Even if it was some super sleazy website which was purely oriented towards sex and nothing else, most of them have a photograph up of some kind. Otherwise how and why would people get together if they did not find one another attractive in some way?

 

Second, what to do about the situation you are in. Change the photo to the correct one, then wait and see if she makes a comment about it. When she does, explain your situation. Chances are 99% that you will not hear from her again after this, and if so then you have no one to blame but yourself. You will know better next time.

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I made a fake profile because I didn't want to be seen on an online dating site. I don't know what to do now. I uploaded photos of a random guy, but now I totally regret it. Should I create a new profile without photos and message her to say I would like to talk to her, but I am willing to send her photos of me?

 

I just don't want to upload photos of me online in case people in the area see I'm on there. I do not want my reputation tarnished by going on a dating site and people seeing me, then people spreading this. I know it's stupid to think like this, but for a guy it's worse if people see me on a dating site - it's not a good for a guy to online date.

 

Should I text her the truth, send her a photo of me and hope she forgives me for it or what do I do? I can't be f****d any more, I just feel I need to be honest. Wow, this was dumb!

 

I am 24, she is 28. She told me she's been on a couple dates, but they didn't go anywhere. I just feel that I've f**ked up big time! She says she likes me and wants me to take her out. Am I screwed?

 

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It depends. Are you as hot as the random guy you've put up as your picture?

crederer Established Member

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If you're that ashamed of doing OLD then don't do it.

 

Is the picture of the guy you used better looking than you? If so, you're doomed.

 

It's really a rather strange thing to do.

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If you're that ashamed of doing OLD then don't do it.

 

Is the picture of the guy you used better looking than you? If so, you're doomed.

 

It's really a rather strange thing to do.

 

I have no idea. I wouldn't say so, but that's my opinion.

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Just meet her and give your explanation then. Update us afterwards.

Charlie Harper Established Member

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This is not going to end up well....

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ja123 Established Member

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Kill your account. Go MIA.

 

Then maybe at a later point you can go back on as yourself when you're ready; you don't have to post pictures if you're not comfortable, but just send them to those you message.

 

Maybe she'll be there. Maybe not. But there'll be others, and you can start off on a new footing.

 

Good luck.

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phineas Established Member

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Screwed!

So screwed.

 

and might I add, ROTFLMAO!

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Jadedbyluv Established Member

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So it's more important to you on what people might say about you being on some dating website then you finding happiness? Who cares what they think to begin with.

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runningfar Established Member

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Kill your account. Go MIA.

 

Then maybe at a later point you can go back on as yourself when you're ready; you don't have to post pictures if you're not comfortable, but just send them to those you message.

 

Maybe she'll be there. Maybe not. But there'll be others, and you can start off on a new footing.

 

Good luck.

 

 

You might be screwed.

 

But your best chance with her is going to be to tell her. If you come back as you, it will come out at some point that she talked to you for a while then you swooped in inder another identity and it will be creepy.

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What a retarded thing to do :laugh:.

 

Yeah, you're screwed - it will not go well. Sorry, I shouldn't laugh. Chalk this one up to experience - suck it up and put your pic up next time, at the very least make them private so you can send them in your message to whoever you're talking to.

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charlietheginger Established Member

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Tell her you don't wanna date her.

 

" i showed friend of mine your profile you two used to date

Im no longer interested "

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WHY WHY WHY?! Yup, you're screwed! It just doesn't make any sense. You didn't want others to know that you were OLD, so you put up fake pics???? YOU KNOW AND SHOULD HAVE known that the pics you put up are going to determine how and if someone is going to contact you. There is NO WAY THAT YOU COULDN'T HAVE KNOWN THAT!

 

....is this a joke? It's gotta be a joke, right? :) Who is THAT clueless???

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Cutiepie1976 Established Member

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How exactly did you expect things to unfold when you were posting these fake photos?

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ForeverHopeful1 Established Member

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Tell her you don't wanna date her.

 

" i showed friend of mine your profile you two used to date

Im no longer interested "

 

Worst advice ever.

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What I dont understand is how you were going to play this off in the event something like THIS happened. You found someone who is interested in a man with a different name and face. She doesnt even know what you look like! So she may or may not even be into you. If you tell her the truth, it is enough to creep a person out. It creeped me out and Im not even the girl you messaged. Its creepy. Why would you do this? Lol.

 

What makes you so special that you have to hide this way?

 

I would shut your account down, and message her yourself, with your name and your OWN pictures and a new profile. You can message her and see if she likes YOU.

 

Its odd you would do this, unless you never intended on meeting anyone at all, which to me, completely defeats the purpose of OLD! You would like to date someone, wouldnt you? How is that possible if they dont even know its you? Lol.

 

Were you going to set up a date, and then meet her and let her realize you were not who you said you were? I just cannot understand why you thought this was a good idea. Were you just trying to fill time and speak to women online and not date them?

 

Good luck! I have no more advice for this ridiculousness. Anyone who SEES you online on a dating site is ALSO using the dating site. What the heck are you so secretive about? Youre currently in a no win situation after doing this, so I hope you have learned from it, or will learn from it.

 

What exactly would happen if someone WHO IS ALSO ON A DATING SITE sees you on a dating site? What are you embarrassed or scared about? Theyre on the same dating site as you!

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I made a fake profile once, just to compare the results of that profile to my own (often I'd message the women who didn't reply to my real profile just to see if they'd reply to an obviously wealthier and independent man). 66% of the women I sent messages to (who didn't reply to my real profile) replied back. And, I got a lot more women who sent me a message first (pretty good matches too).

 

I never allowed the conversations to last long enough to get to a meet (usually 1-2 messages then I'd fade). But I would only suggest doing such a thing as an experiment. Nothing more.

 

You're in quite a pickle with this one...

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What I dont understand is how you were going to play this off in the event something like THIS happened. You found someone who is interested in a man with a different name and face. She doesnt even know what you look like! So she may or may not even be into you. If you tell her the truth, it is enough to creep a person out. It creeped me out and Im not even the girl you messaged. Its creepy. Why would you do this? Lol.

 

What makes you so special that you have to hide this way?

 

I would shut your account down, and message her yourself, with your name and your OWN pictures and a new profile. You can message her and see if she likes YOU.

 

Its odd you would do this, unless you never intended on meeting anyone at all, which to me, completely defeats the purpose of OLD! You would like to date someone, wouldnt you? How is that possible if they dont even know its you? Lol.

 

Were you going to set up a date, and then meet her and let her realize you were not who you said you were? I just cannot understand why you thought this was a good idea. Were you just trying to fill time and speak to women online and not date them?

 

Good luck! I have no more advice for this ridiculousness. Anyone who SEES you online on a dating site is ALSO using the dating site. What the heck are you so secretive about? Youre currently in a no win situation after doing this, so I hope you have learned from it, or will learn from it.

 

What exactly would happen if someone WHO IS ALSO ON A DATING SITE sees you on a dating site? What are you embarrassed or scared about? Theyre on the same dating site as you!

 

I have no idea how I was going to play it off. I never thought about it at the time. I am just very paranoid about people seeing me on online dating. I know people who use online dating, but they are women. Women it's understandable, but for a guy, it's embarrassing.

 

I set up the account and was going to add my photos, but at the last minute I realised that people would see me on there, so I uploaded a couple of random pics of a guy. It was a stupid f****** idea, I know this! I have now deleted the account and regretting this sh** so much.

 

She still wants me to take her out, says she really likes me and I feel f**king awful.

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I just don't want to upload photos of me online in case people in the area see I'm on there. I do not want my reputation tarnished by going on a dating site and people seeing me, then people spreading this. I know it's stupid to think like this, but for a guy it's worse if people see me on a dating site - it's not a good for a guy to online date.

 

Why would anyone on a dating site want to date someone who thinks bad about themselves for being on a dating site? Just delete your fake account if that's how you feel about it - you're just making dating sites worse for everyone else by having a fake profile.

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I have no idea how I was going to play it off. I never thought about it at the time. I am just very paranoid about people seeing me on online dating. I know people who use online dating, but they are women. Women it's understandable, but for a guy, it's embarrassing.

 

Most of those women aren't there just to chat with other women, you are not the only man on there! There's really no shame in it. The stigma of the 90s has well and truly passed, my friend.

 

If you want to go after this lady, make sure she knows the truth. That is, you don't have to tell her your whole life story, but she at least deserves to know how you yourself differ from your fake profile. Send her a real picture of yourself and see where it goes from there. Good luck.

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She still wants me to take her out, says she really likes me and I feel f**king awful.

 

How do you know she still wants you to take her out? Does she have your cell number and has texted you?

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I'm afraid as a male I have to tell you that my view it is an absolute non-no. An incredible number of women do this on OLD sites, more so on some sites than others. I always assume the worst, starting from the point of view that they are running some sort of scam, involving money to the likelihood that they don't think they are good enough to use a photo of themselves that they are hiding from someone else that I don't want to get involved with.

 

The problem is that no matter what you do the first exchange there is between you is founded on a lie and that can only inculcate mistrust. How are you going to explain it and expect her to believe it. And the probability is that she is going to feel humiliated for having been taken as a fool having had her trust betrayed. The only way this sort of thing can work is if there is trust.

 

I have to tell you and anybody else who may be entertaining it it is incredibly easy to find out if someone is using a false profile picture. Firstly you can immediately weed out photographs that are 'too professional' or any where you wonder how on earth did they manage to take that photo of themselves. If you are still in doubt you only have to search the Internet using Google Image Search or Tineye or any of the other available image search tools. There are even browser add-ins that will allow you to do a multiple search using these tools all at once just for thoroughness and efficiency. They aren't fool-proof and professional scammers will know how to get around them but, sadly, I wouldn't browse OLD sites without using them. It is a sad reflection of the nature of the beast that I think it is necessary to do this. It isn't fair to those honest and brave women who are prepared to put their heads above the parapet, figuratively-speaking.

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Most of those women aren't there just to chat with other women, you are not the only man on there! There's really no shame in it. The stigma of the 90s has well and truly passed, my friend.

 

If you want to go after this lady, make sure she knows the truth. That is, you don't have to tell her your whole life story, but she at least deserves to know how you yourself differ from your fake profile. Send her a real picture of yourself and see where it goes from there. Good luck.

 

Could I text her and say:

 

"I have a confession to make. My profile pics are not me, but before you think I'm a creep or whatever can you let me to explain myself?"

Maleficent Established Member

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Dude you jinxed me!

 

I had this email from a really hot guy last night. Turns out he put in a picture of his favorite football player.

 

darnit!

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