greenhorn Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 The subject line says it all...and i have few more experiences of my frnds that makes me generalize that it is more often girls who ditch.. I was with this girl for six years..we studied together in our undergraduate ..all the time we were together helping each other doing the assignments..and we completed the studies.Initially we were just frnds and when we come close it was she who opened up and said that she loved me and we got more close. We had to part at the end of our school term.I went to a different school for my Masters and she got a job and we continued on Phone,email,messenger and occasionally i would go to meet her. well that was the nice part and suddenly she has changed .she wont care for me ..if i dont call her she wont ..before this she wont even stay a day without being in touch and now weeks would pass and she wont call me .ultimately i had to call and when i wud ask why she didnt call me she wud say that she didnt get time...imagine someone not getting time 5 mins in four weeks..and once she said that she has lot many frnds in her life and her own circle that she does not have time for me and since i have only her in my life so i get time for her ..i asked her has she got someone else in her life to which she said no... when i said that why u changed she said that it was always like this and she never loved me ..now what do i do..?? it sounds very cheap to make her remember all those times when she said that she loved me ..sounds cheap to show her the letters..how can she deny ..how can? and she always says me that she has a short memory.. But am i robot that i am programmed so that i forget all those days...now it is hurting me like anything.i have lost my sleep my peace everything and having a tough time in convincing me to live? how can someone deny?? does physical distance change you so much?? and the fact is that i m a bit emotional is making things worse and now i am afraid that i have started hating girls .any girl i see i think that she wud also ditch someone some day and whenver i see any couple i feel that the guy is going to cry after sometime just like me.. how can someone forget those six years the time when i came to adult life ...she was my first and i guess my last love...
DerangedAngel Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 First let me tell you that I'm sorry. she said that it was always like this and she never loved me ..now what do i do..?? You move on. You don't want to pressure her into anything, or bring up the past. If she cared about you she would never say something like that. And I think you deserve someone who truly loves you. ...she was my first and i guess my last love... She'll only be your last love if you keep thinking like this! Six years is a long time to devote to a relationship, I know that. Try to focus on yourself right now. Do things you enjoy. Meet new people. Eventually you'll feel ready to play the dating game again. Good luck. -Deranged
Author greenhorn Posted September 26, 2004 Author Posted September 26, 2004 Thanks for the nice words DerangedAngel...... the only thing that keeps coming to my mind is that what will happen if this happens to me again..right now i m totally shattered so cant take the risk of this again.. and i just want to ask that girl why did she do this to me.? what was my fault? atleast that answer might soothe me a little
DerangedAngel Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 Is she refusing to give you closure? There's always a risk when you enter a relationship. That's the price we pay for love. If it doesn't work out, it'll tear your world apart. But, personally, I don't people should let fear get in the way of the possibility of happiness. -DA
Author greenhorn Posted September 26, 2004 Author Posted September 26, 2004 She just wants to continue as " Hi,hello " types..someone as her old classmate..now how can i demote my relationship ..love to simple acquaintance..as far as i know relationships can be upgraded and not downgraded.. i tried to make her understand but she has a simple answer " we were always like this ,i never loved u " once i mentioned her one incident when she didnt allow me to talk to one other girl who was also my classmate just cause she was possessive and she replied back that she doesn't remember an inch of it.After that i left recalling anything... many a times i have tried forgetting her .but maximum for a week..all the time the days we spend would come into my mind and i wud contact her again to be hurt again .. i thought that she would wish me on my B'day but she didnt.. the problem is that i cant accept the fact that our relationship would end just like that for no reason...what should i convince myself with...she shud atleast give some reason and end it rather saying that there was never anything between us.. This is the thing which hurts most -- when she denies our past-- if she had to end she cud have done it in a rather dignified way.
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