Flutterbyme Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Hi everyone It's now been a full week since he left A full week no contact I'm very proud of myself! He left because he started living with his cousins etc and he kept drinking a lot, his attitude changed over a couple of weeks to aggressive moods an as if I wasn't there. He changed so much I thought about ending it but yet when I talked to him about how I felt he cried and said he didn't want to loose me. Let alone a week later he left me. Said he wants to act like a lad and I'm in the way. He has no money to spend in days out with me because all these parties he wants to go to! It was horrible truly horrible - made me feel like it was myself tht did this he said I saw him too much ( I only saw him on my weekends off) Previous to this we had been together 2 years an been through a lot. I believed at one point he suffered depression and tried to help him to no avail. I helped him with everything and stood by him but here I am He had one night stands before he met me and e said they were horrible an how much he wanted a girlfriend and he used to get sad as he didn't have one. One minute (nr the end) he'd hug kiss me hold my hand day all the right things week before bought me flowers. So basically my already generally low self confidence has been rocked. I feel like I'm really not good enough and I'm picking everything out on me that's bad. E.g to fat . I don't know I'm just so low and wish I'd walked away sooner. I wouldn't get back with him but wouldn't it be nice to even think I entered his mind after two years but no nothing even if he was sorry. How long to men on gigs does it last I know it's dependant on the person but do they ever come crawling?
siankat Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 I'm really sorry for what you have been going through and yes, sometimes people do try and make ways back to the partner they left behind but it would be worth you seeing it from his side for a moment. If he left you , in this manner, then felt lonely at times and needed that old support, and contacted you with a problem or an i miss you, that is not it. That is so many other things, but that is not him wanting you back. If he got back in touch and you were like 'ok yeah sure, lets take it slow but yeah' he will know it is easy to do what he did, get you back, and we all know that what we don't work hard to get, we don't appreciate. The best advice i can give you is, take care of yourself, don't expect anything from him now as he doesn't want you and can't give it to you. Your best chance is if years...yes years down the line, he gets in touch after you two have lost contact, and he says that he would like to try again. Only then. BEcause at this point you two are more likely to be equals again. If it was a good relationship, then you stand a chance of that. THere is no quick fix or time frame that you can have in sight as this one is...indefinitely over and if anything, have the long breath because even if he comes back beggin soon, it may be for the wrong reasons. Thats my take, from my experience. Be in a place where if he does come back you are in a position to make a real choice and not just a kneejerk quick fix to ease the pain in you heart. Good luck
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