femaletroubles Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Hi All, like a little advice if you don't mind There's this cute girl in med school with me. She always smiles and blushes at me, and when we have rounds she'll stand right next to me until she's literally touching me. She'll put her head on my shoulder and rest on me just randomly. When we're talking she'll just stare in my eyes and smile. Point is she definitely has a crush on me...at least i think The other day we were talking and one of the faculty suggests she and I go out to dinner, (we were both saying we really wanted to try this new place that opened, and he definitely thought we're both interested in each other) I said let's go right after. She started blushing really hard, and then when I was teasing her why not she says "I'd really love to but i think someone else wouldn't be happy" Whoaa, so apparently she has a boyfriend. She's never even alluded to this. Makes sense, she won't confirm the Facebook friend request i sent her (while she has for everyone else in the class) Should I keep flirting with her? Should I stop showing interest? or is she just playing with me? Thanks for the input
Tinie Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 I think she's probably playing with you. Maybe her relationship is boring to her, but secure, and you're her fun bit on the side. Toss her- she is not a trustworthy person. Unless she dumps her boyfriend and goes to pursue you, nothing good will come out of this. 1
ses Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Yes. Stop initiating any flirtatious contact with her, and stop showing any interest. She probably enjoys the attention and wants to keep you on the hook. She doesn't sound that committed to her bf if she was willing to flirt. Sounds like she engaged in some "bait-and-switch" with you. I enjoy flirting with guys but I restrained myself when I was with my ex. Don't mess around her until she's single.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 She's playing games with you. The fact that she's only just told you she has a boyfriend is evidence of this. She likes the attention she gets from you, and indeed might actually like you and not be as interested in her relationship anymore. BUT unless and until she's single, you'll wind up disappointed. Stop showing any interest in her and if she asks what's up, call her out on it. She can't have her cake and eat it too.
apple OR orange Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 women saying there off the market is her way of letting you know your never getting sex, play her at her own game, so one day say "i know, your so not my type", that will send a clear message back you dont want her, however still flirt with her. She wont like it, and the problem will stop.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 11, 2013 Author Posted May 11, 2013 I think you're right, she likes me but has a BF and is probably getting bored with that. I'll stop initiating on my end. Maybe one day she'll be single. Honestly, i feel that in these situations, the seed gets planted in the back of the other persons mind, and my guess is in a few months she'll end up single. Not my intentions though, and don't want to be the "rebound" either thanks everyone, much appreciated
Somethngcreative Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 In my experience women like that end up leaving you when push comes to shove, which why I always respect someone's relationship no matter how much I like the girl. Besides, if she's doing that to her current bf what makes you say she won't do it to you? If you really like her, I think you should wait for their relationship to end.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 OP, it is possible the woman is looking to fool around with you, or even looking for a replacement. Many people emotionally check out of a rlship before breaking it off. This is more true with age, after mid 20's there is always someone else, even if not a bona fide bf/gf in everyone's life. It is up to the people in a relationship to set it's parameters and respect them. It is not for us to assume what level of seriousness or exclusivity they should have. Some bf/gf's are engaged to be engaged....others are really casual and open. Only marriage is sanctified. In my experience women like that end up leaving you when push comes to shove, which why I always respect someone's relationship no matter how much I like the girl. Besides, if she's doing that to her current bf what makes you say she won't do it to you? If you really like her, I think you should wait for their relationship to end. I say again, only marriage is sanctified.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 OP, it is possible the woman is looking to fool around with you, or even looking for a replacement. Many people emotionally check out of a rlship before breaking it off. This is more true with age, after mid 20's there is always someone else, even if not a bona fide bf/gf in everyone's life. It is up to the people in a relationship to set it's parameters and respect them. It is not for us to assume what level of seriousness or exclusivity they should have. Some bf/gf's are engaged to be engaged....others are really casual and open. Only marriage is sanctified. I say again, only marriage is sanctified. Thanks, I've gone with the above, she's just too cute to me. I'm continuing to show interest, she reciprocates and she initiates. She lights up when she sees me. If she wants out of her relationship then she'll make the decision herself Thanks
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