PR Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 I am very much into this person. At the same time, this person's life is so difficult and hectic that there is no room for me. Either that or this person is leading me on. We hook up every once in a while, but there are no clear cut signals. Should I continue pursuing this person?
JoL Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 Maybe the best thing to do in this situation is ask this person honestly how they feel about you and your place in their life. At the same time, tell them how you feel and what you want out of this relationship... if you're ok with hooking up sometimes then that's cool. But if you want more- let them know so they don't end up making you feel like you've been strung along.....
ps123 Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 How long have you been dating her? Jol's idea is good, although you may scare her off if youve only been dating a short time. Do you think the things shes telling you about her schedule are true? If so, then she may just not have the time you want right now. I woudlnt take it as anything personal about you. You may want to ask yourself what you need in a relationship and think about how much time you'd like to spend with a person youre dating. Ive been in that situation. I liked this woman, but she was just simply too busy and her life was too chaotic and unorganized to date someone seriously. She wasnt dating anyone else, and it wasnt about me, she just simply didnt have time. Needless to say, it didnt work out. If you think you'll want more time than shes able to give you, then you might want to look at that. Ive also been in a similar situation where the woman said she was always busy with this or that. Turns out, she was dating several other guys and being dishonest about it. Im not saying this woman is doing that to you...just might want to be aware of it. Good luck.
Author PR Posted September 26, 2004 Author Posted September 26, 2004 JoL, I took your advice and asked her (candidly and in a friendly way). Now it is a matter of waiting. Will let you know what happens.
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