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She's been texting me lately but it's been bringing me down again so I have been thinking of sending her this text. Should I ?

 

The thing is I have to be truthful cause I've always told you the truth.

I care a great deal for you and all but I can't live a lie and pretend everything is great and were the best of friends. I'm finally over you but there's a part of me who is still angry. There's also a part of me that Loves you very much though that love for you has been locked up deep within the dungeon of my heart. And because I care for you I can't live a lie. Now don't misunderstand me I understand why you broke up with me . Girls in there early 20s who are getting to close or in love will get scared and go through what is called GIGS(Grass Is Greener Stage)

 

it's perfectly normal to want to find yourself and see what is out there. But I didn't invest 8 months of my life to just be your friend . I can't just be some friend that just sits back and watch you go out with a bunch of douche bags that don't deserve you and only want sex. It would be unfair for you to want me to do that also. I don't ever want to resent you or myself. The best thing for both of us at least for the foreseeable future is to go No Contact . Not cause I don't like you but because I care to much and have to let you go if only for my sanity.

 

Your a sweet girl with the biggest heart I know and your gonna do great. All I want for you is for all your dreams to come true and one day for you to find a Man or a Women that is gonna love you enough for you to be able to fully give your heart and soul to them. Don't get discouraged one day you will find that person . And I'll always be cheering you on from afar . I told you once no matter how long we don't talk . No matter how far away I will always love and believe in you. And if you ever are in a jam ill always be there you know how to find me.

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Don't send her anything. If you were really over her, like your text claims, you wouldn't care about sending her a text that is just going to either be ignored, or responded to in a negative way. Just let it go man. Instead of TELLING her you won't be her friend, SHOW her.

 

 

 

 

Also, you are pretty much handing her your balls.

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Tooooooo long. And nooooo.

 

Ignore her. Don't say a thing.

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When my boyfriend sent me long texts, they never come in their right order- his texts gets cut off or I receive the ending of the text before I get the beginning.

No, don't text your ex. Sometimes saying what's in your mind isn't a good thing, and it's especially true if the person has already ran away. Why even bother to open your wounds when they are still trying to scab and heal?

 

Be glad the ex left. It just means you now have room and the freedom to be a better you and meet new people.

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Thank you I will not send it. And I no longer want to answer her texts I just don't want to be a jerk

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be straight up with her.. Tell her that either you want a relationship with me or you dont...

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Don't send the text.

 

Especially in the manner you've written it, it comes across quite preachy, I think you'll probably just piss her off or push her away further.

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You could just not send anything and accept her actions as proof that she doesn't want you back because she hasn't made any efforts to let you know...

 

or...

 

No need to elaborate. Just state your intentions clearly and leave it at that. Something like:

 

"I don't wish to be friends. I want a relationship. If that is not what you want then this has to stop and I won't be responding any more"

 

At least then you will know your answer.

 

Jerk or not, it's irrelevant at this stage. You have to stand up for your interests here.

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