humph.. Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 I was just wondering, how many of you actually tell your partners you're asking relationship advice on online forums? Do your partners know what stuff you ask? Do they know AT ALL that you are posting questions? Would they be upset/furious if they knew? I know my boyfriend would probably hit the freakin roof if he knew..!
supermom Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 I tell my husband I'm on here, I've even showed him the site a bit. He knows I'm addicted to LS lol He doesn't care what I post.
RowanRavyn Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 Same here. My honey knows all about it.
Author humph.. Posted September 26, 2004 Author Posted September 26, 2004 I dont think my bf has ever used the internet...he wouldnt be happy i dont think. He doesnt even like me discussing stuff with friends regarding our relationship (problems etc..).
faux Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 Originally posted by humph.. I was just wondering, how many of you actually tell your partners you're asking relationship advice on online forums? I do. Do your partners know what stuff you ask? If I have an issue with my girlfriend, I tend to bring it up with her first. Usually, when I ask questions about my own relationships, I have mostly worked the issues out with my partner, and just want some other input. My girlfriend does know that I actively participate in this type of forum. She does not know the exact name of the forum, but she does know what I do ask and what I post. She likes the fact that I am involved in something such as this. Do they know AT ALL that you are posting questions? Would they be upset/furious if they knew? She knows, and she is not upset. I try to respect her privacy, and do not wish to contribute too much information about her. I suppose she does not mind so much, as she realizes I view privacy as a VERY important thing. I know my boyfriend would probably hit the freakin roof if he knew..! My girlfriend appreciates that I am very open with her, and that I always want to sort tiny issues out with her before they get to be true problems. She thinks it is a good idea that I try to get further input from other members of the forum, and that it is fine for me to contribute personal stories if I believe they might help someone else.
Author humph.. Posted September 26, 2004 Author Posted September 26, 2004 Every problem i've asked advice for here i have always discussed with my bf first too. But due to his overwhelming need for people not to know what happens in our r'ship (and i respect that) i dont tell even my closest friends details about our problems but sometimes it's nice to get advice and opinions on stuff. So when i need advice i guess i go for the anonymous approach- it also allows me to get outsider opinions without pre-existing knowledge about my r'ship, which can be the most insightful. and this way im not compromising his privacy or mine.
Brooklyn8503 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 my bf doesn't know that i come here. we talk about everything before i come on here. this is my place to just get another perspective on what others think. my bf most likely wouldn't be mad if i was on here because we have an open, honest, caring, and loving relationship. our friends now whta we do and what we don't do but they never find out details so this most liekyl wouldn't bother him.
bulldoggirl Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Nope, I don't tell my husband that I come here. He thinks message boards & chat rooms are full of "freaks" as he calls them. So I don't even bother trying to explain. I don't visit chat rooms though, just boards like this one where advice is given & recieved. I love the shack!!
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