sybo24 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Ex MM finished things again on tuesday. When this has happend in the past there have always been things that I have of his that gets used as an excuse to see him again. This time I didnt want that......so I text him today and asked for my things back and for him to come and collect his. I needed this to be done so I could start NC again and suceed this time. He came tonight and gave me back my things and he took his stuff. Only problem is on tuesday in a fit of anger I cut up all his clothes before putting them in the bags!!!!! He has sent me the following text 'Didnt expect anything less. Its made things so much easier. Have a nice life x' I feel really guilty now and awful. I stupidly feel like this action is a reason we will never get back together now. He left me for the 3rd time to go back to his wife. When will I realise that he is the ******* and not me. I cried after and now must start NC and stick with if one final time. I still love him though and it is going to be really hard x
Moemone Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Don't speak the negative "its going to be really hard" instead tell your self how easy its gonna be and also tell your self that "at least i wont have to deal with the pain of him always leaving to go back to his wife". I don't know I am just saying, I am going through that same thing and I am trying to tell my self all the positive I need for strength. I know its not easy just dont speak the negative the universe gives us what we believe. 3
Sarabi Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I know its not easy just dont speak the negative the universe gives us what we believe. Oh My... Spoken just like my MM... honestly!
krazikat Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Ex MM finished things again on tuesday. When this has happend in the past there have always been things that I have of his that gets used as an excuse to see him again. This time I didnt want that......so I text him today and asked for my things back and for him to come and collect his. I needed this to be done so I could start NC again and suceed this time. He came tonight and gave me back my things and he took his stuff. Only problem is on tuesday in a fit of anger I cut up all his clothes before putting them in the bags!!!!! He has sent me the following text 'Didnt expect anything less. Its made things so much easier. Have a nice life x' I feel really guilty now and awful. I stupidly feel like this action is a reason we will never get back together now. He left me for the 3rd time to go back to his wife. When will I realise that he is the ******* and not me. I cried after and now must start NC and stick with if one final time. I still love him though and it is going to be really hard x Sybo...I actually would give you a high five if possible. So just imagine it coming your way.. His text was stupid. After everything he has done to you and his wife, this guy deserves morethan cut clothes...what a jerk! He is an asshat plain and simple. Playing with the emotions of both you and his wife. Going back and forth, causing pain for someone each time. Woman you deserve more than this! So does his wife! The clothes should not be the reason for you and asshat to not be together again. The reason should be that you stand up and say enough is enough! For you to look in the mirror and see a beautiful, strong, independent woman that KNOWS YOU DESERVE MORE THAN THIS MAN IS OFFERING!!!! For you to love yourself. There really are wonderful men out there, men that dont lie and play games and break your heart repeatedly. Men that would be dedicated to you, and only you. Please focus on you. Find true love of yourself. If you find yourself sliding backwards, remind yourself of how you feel, the pain he has caused you. You dont need this man. He brings you down. He is toxic. 4
2sure Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Sometimes, when we can't help ourselves from being around people that hurt us or are toxic or are not good for us...we have to burn the bridge so we can't go back no matter what. I think you should not feel guilty. I think you should embrace that you burned that mother fking bridge down with your own two hands . You made the final decision. It's done. Be relieved. You don't have to wonder anymore. 4
whichwayisup Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Ex MM finished things again on tuesday. When this has happend in the past there have always been things that I have of his that gets used as an excuse to see him again. This time I didnt want that......so I text him today and asked for my things back and for him to come and collect his. I needed this to be done so I could start NC again and suceed this time. He came tonight and gave me back my things and he took his stuff. Only problem is on tuesday in a fit of anger I cut up all his clothes before putting them in the bags!!!!! He has sent me the following text 'Didnt expect anything less. Its made things so much easier. Have a nice life x' I feel really guilty now and awful. I stupidly feel like this action is a reason we will never get back together now. He left me for the 3rd time to go back to his wife. When will I realise that he is the ******* and not me. I cried after and now must start NC and stick with if one final time. I still love him though and it is going to be really hard x Nah, don't feel bad. Look at it in a humourous way. You cut his clothing up! good for you! Hey, it's just clothes. Not like you did a Lorena Bobbit on his penis or valuable personal items. It was clothes! This is NOT the reason why it's over. It ended a long time ago. This just confirmed for both of you, it really IS time to let go and move on. Grieve the loss... This guy went back and forth THREE TIMES between you and his wife. I don't think it's gonna be half as hard as you think. There might be some nice relief to know the game playing and crap is ALL over, once and for all. 5
Author sybo24 Posted May 11, 2013 Author Posted May 11, 2013 Thank you all. I know being negative is bad and am trying to stop this and think more positively. I shouldnt feel guility, but this is really not the type of person I am. He has made me be vengfull and I dont like that. Today is a new day and I am more positive and will not let someone who doesnt deserve me take any more of my life and emotions. I am going to find things to do when my kids are at their dads and use time to see more of my friends. One thing I have done this week is to write a journal putting down everything I want to say to him and questions I know I am never going to get answers too. This is helping as once I have wrote it down it emptys from my mind. I wont do this for much longer as already I feel better. It will be interesing to read this in a few months and see how bad I was. A life leason will have been learned and I will be a better person for surviving this.
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