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Ok guys,

 

So I was just keeping a friend of mine company about 30 minutes ago while she waited for the dealership to finish work on her car, then a very cute young lady walks by, we hold eye contact for about 5 seconds and she makes the cutest smile I've ever seen. Problem being, I was too much of a coward to approach her and lost the moment... but I did hear the employee say her name... and I successfully looked her up on FB, I'm certain that's super creepy, but when you drop the ball and lose the moment, what's a guy to do?

 

Should I say anything? Or just let it go?

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Five seconds of eye contact? Do you know how long that is? haha I'm pretty sure in those five seconds you just lost your virginity and didn't even realize it (that's a joke, please take it as such).

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What do you have to lose? Explain how you found her. The worst that can happen is that she does think you creepy and then never see her again.

 

If there was genuine interest, I, personally would be okay with it. But, then again, I'm a guy. Maybe the ladies would feel differently.

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Five seconds of eye contact? Do you know how long that is? haha I'm pretty sure in those five seconds you just lost your virginity and didn't even realize it (that's a joke, please take it as such).

 

 

Haha :p. I know it's stupid, just one of those moments, ya know? Yes I am like a small child, I know that!

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Part of me is going :eek: and part of me is reminding myself that I've done crazier things. Meh, go for it. Just don't do anything that will get you in trouble with the cops. And if she seems hesitant, back the hell off.

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Part of me is going :eek: and part of me is reminding myself that I've done crazier things. Meh, go for it. Just don't do anything that will get you in trouble with the cops. And if she seems hesitant, back the hell off.

 

Thanks! I'm smarter than that lol, I'll be one soon!

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It's only creepy if they didn't like you in the first place. Otherwise it's romantic!

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StanMusial Established Member

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Hi my name is Creepy McCreeperston. Will you go on a date with me?

 

No?

 

But I've got guns.

 

I know where you live.

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Hi my name is Creepy McCreeperston. Will you go on a date with me?

 

No?

 

But I've got guns.

 

I know where you live.

 

Very witty and insightful. Thanks for the contribution.

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Let it go. If its meant to be, you'll run into her again.

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Ok guys,

 

So I was just keeping a friend of mine company about 30 minutes ago while she waited for the dealership to finish work on her car, then a very cute young lady walks by, we hold eye contact for about 5 seconds and she makes the cutest smile I've ever seen. Problem being, I was too much of a coward to approach her and lost the moment... but I did hear the employee say her name... and I successfully looked her up on FB, I'm certain that's super creepy, but when you drop the ball and lose the moment, what's a guy to do?

 

Should I say anything? Or just let it go?

 

Go for it. Be honest & lighthearted. And I agree... if she seems hesitant, back off.

 

OR, less creepy... does she work at that dealership? You could go back and "randomly" run into her again, with more courage built up this time.

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Nahhhhhhhhh... I think it is creepy.

 

What I would do in this case is go back to the dealership and ask the guy who said her name about her.

 

Or if you can tell where she works by her FB page, maybe see if you can bump into her.

 

But the real lesson in this is - when you get those opportunities, go for it!

 

The worst thing she could do is say she isn't interested. Now you may never know.

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I read alot, and looking someone up would be define as stalking, you missed the moment....

 

I am happy to miss all moments as i wont talk to any woman, i dont like being told no so very happy to know i will never get a yes. It actually makes my life alot easier

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I read alot, and looking someone up would be define as stalking, you missed the moment....

 

Not true. Stalking requires unwanted and obsessive attention. Looking someone up hardly qualifies as such.

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This is why Face Book should cost money and limit itself to it's clientele. No way should someone have the power to go pry like that and start ruminating on what to do about some routine friendly gesture passed on the street. :mad:

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Ok guys,

 

So I was just keeping a friend of mine company about 30 minutes ago while she waited for the dealership to finish work on her car, then a very cute young lady walks by, we hold eye contact for about 5 seconds and she makes the cutest smile I've ever seen. Problem being, I was too much of a coward to approach her and lost the moment... but I did hear the employee say her name... and I successfully looked her up on FB, I'm certain that's super creepy, but when you drop the ball and lose the moment, what's a guy to do?

 

Should I say anything? Or just let it go?

 

I did it to a hairstylist but we had talked about meeting up I just didn't get her number afterward. Everything was cool.

 

Wait a couple days before contacting her. Keep it short and if she doesn't reciprocate then don't bother her again. You only live once, might not get another shot /shrug.

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I did it to a hairstylist but we had talked about meeting up I just didn't get her number afterward. Everything was cool.

 

Wait a couple days before contacting her. Keep it short and if she doesn't reciprocate then don't bother her again. You only live once, might not get another shot /shrug.

 

I'll bet a dollar against a bottle of piss that she will not know who the hell he is.

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If you'd actually had a conversation with her then the FB lookup wouldn't be so bad...but just a look? Nope I'd find that very creepy and would not respond.

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To clarify... I was simply asking for opinions. I didn't say I intended to or had made any attempt to contact... just looking for opinions on the concept. Nothing more.

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The concept of contacting a complete stranger on Facebook after seeing them and not actually talking to them is way creepy. I wont give unsolicited advice since that's not what you're looking for. It's creepy. End of story

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This is definitely an age issue. A couple relationships have started off this way for me. It's only creepy if its creepy, and only she will be able to tell you if it is or is not. You have nothing to lose, either you get her or you don't, and you won't get her if you let her go.

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I dotn think its creepy.....but....if she declines and you persist....stalkerville...deb

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The concept of contacting a complete stranger on Facebook after seeing them and not actually talking to them is way creepy. I wont give unsolicited advice since that's not what you're looking for. It's creepy. End of story

 

This. Right. Here.

 

You had your moment. You pissed it away. You failed. Suck it up and remember this pain the next time a pretty girl smiles at you.

 

"Creepy" is just the female codeword for when a man is unattractive or does something to render himself unattractive. And one of the most unattractive things a man can do, especially with a pretty girl, is miss the moment. Once you've shown yourself to lack the balls to attack, you've lost. Game over.

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It depends on what she felt. It can be super romantic or creepy.

 

Do you really care if a stranger sees you as creepy?

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It's creepy. You are better off posting on the Missed Encounters portion of Craig's List. Five seconds of eye contact? And you overheard her name? That is about as Romantic as spending Valentines Day at a haunted house.

 

 

We have the same initials :eek:

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