IS IT Better late Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 So my ex has been sending me some heavy breadcrumbs that I eat all the time Yum,Yum. Texting me to find out how I'm doing and just trying to open communication up with me again. This all started after 2-weeks of NC. So I asked her what was up, asking if she just wanted to be my flirty pen pal or she wanted to see me. She said she wanted to see me again but wouldn't commit to a date. So the next round of breadcrumbs came in this week and she now has agreed to a date with me. Supposed to see her end of next week. Not sure of her intentions but of course I'm kind of excited to see her. As I've said before I still have strong feelings for this chick but I don't want to be hurt again by her. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Has anyone been down this road and regretted it? And anyone been down this road and is happy they did it? I'm definitely leaning towards going ahead with it. Unless she cancels and them I'll try to write her off for good. But I'm not sure if this good for me or not? Any input appreciated!
CelticGibson Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I just received a very persuasive breadcrumb today. She was very convincing telling me she missed me and that there was nothing wrong with us and we should get back talking. She even went on to say that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. I was this close to pressing send but stopped myself. Why? Because nothing in what she wrote explicitly stated that she was sorry and that she wanted to try again and would I give her the chance. You acknowledge that what you have been receiving were breadcrumbs too and yet you persisted in asking HER for a date. Man, she's the one who is supposed to make the effort, not you. I guarantee you that this "date" will be nothing of the sort and you will get hurt. You are at a serious disadvantage right now because you admit you still have strong feelings for her. However if you go through with this "date", expect the unexpected... 1
StraylightRun24 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 My good old friend IS IT Better late! While I don't think it's necessarily the best idea I say go for it. For one thing you can't seem to not respond to her breadcrumb texts (not judging in the least bit. I would too!) so you might as well try and see her face to face. Two scenarios I see happening: 1)She realizes she made a huge mistake and you two end up getting back together or 2)You realize the meet up is just a bigger breadcrumb and you can finally kill your hope once and for all. I'm rooting for #1, but just keep in mind scenario #2 is more likely. So in my mind it's a win-win(by route of feeling like utter crap for a while) situation! Good luck my friend!
crederer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I know lots of people that broke up, got back together and are happy. If you want to be with her, give it a go. Don't act desperate or like a blubbering idiot, though. I don't think meeting her will make you lose dignity as long as you behave appropriately.
Author IS IT Better late Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Thanks for the input guys! Stray I think you are dead on! Well this chick has flaked before when I was dating her so first I want to see if she goes ahead with it. I'm actually anticipating a kind of a scenario 3 to happen. She's a stubborn chick and I really don't think she's going to profess her love to me and start apoligizing up and down, nor am I going to ask her for that. But I don't think she would make this kind of effort to just to boost her ego. So I expect it to kind of land somewhere in the middle of your 1 & 2. I'm just going try to have fun with her and see what happens. But if there's any BS and she starts going cold again at least this time I know what I'm dealing with and she won't blind side me. If this chick only knew behind the scenes how hurt I was, but I never shared that with her so she things all's good! We'll see....
CelticGibson Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 " I never shared that with her so she things all's good!" And this is why she's meeting with you. She thinks you are cool with it all now and that you both can meet civilly and have a nice meet up. If she knew that you were hurting I am sure she would have declined in the first place. Of course if you think it's better to go to see for yourself if her intentions match yours then do so. At least you will know for sure where you stand... Best of luck.
LadyAnglerTx Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I just went thru the breadcrumb scenario with my ex and it was a disaster! He threw me breadcrumbs to meet for drinks/dinner... like an idiot I ran to him all excited thinking he still loved me and we could reconcile. Date went great, had a makeout session, thought we had hope... Then.......no contact. When I contacted him he ripped my heart out saying "I was hoping something was still there but I think over the years too much has been done and said". WTF????? Then why did you sit thru a 2 hour dinner gazing into my eyes and then later made out with me sticking your tongue down my throat? Luckily I didn't let it go all the way and left his house but WHAT was that all about? After that last text I cannot tell you how mad I am. Don't risk it! It is awful feeling the way I do now - I feel used.
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