jonnykino Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Me and my ex had a messy breakup. Split up because after a couple months she told me she loved me and I wasn't ready to say it back, plus she felt pressure because of mutual friends because my previous ex was in that group. She was also disgusted because - we're both Christian - we started to do certain 'stuff'. We stayed close, and she kept saying she liked me and times she went to kiss me. Then she went on a date, and I gave her a letter telling her how I felt. She rejected it. Then I tell her am moving on, and whilst with friends, she starts texting me saying she wants to do 'stuff' with me again. It happens again, and the next day and then she says she wants to sleep with me. Promptly changes her mind, then claims she was drunk - she wasn't. She then says we can't be around each other because if she has a drink she'll 'want me'. Other crap gets involved, when a girl I go on a date with emails my ex, my ex reports her to the police. Then my brother get's involved with drugs, I ask her for help, she then hates me because her own brother died related to drugs and she thinks I tried to use that against her - I didn't, I needed help from someone I was close with. She then says to be friends and it fell apart. Say's she can't trust me now and thats the reason why she can't be with me. She's now 'seeing' some new guy who's overweight and not attractive, almost like a safety guy so the stuff that happened between me and her doesn't happen again. She's visiting him next weekend, where things could become 'official', and I dunno if there's anything I can do to make her feel the way she once did about me? I've literally got less than a week to do something, because once they go official and I graduate, I'll never see her again. Help? Advice? Anything?
flight E Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 this is the best time for you to keep your cool if you can keep calm and let her know you still care but not directly she will probably come back but if you chase her you will lose her. try your utmost best not to chase her, I have lost one I love because I chased her
Author jonnykino Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Well I chased her with the letter. Then after all that and us briefly rekindling, she says to be friends. Then that goes all wrong, and she claims she starts to suffer from paranoia, anxiety, and panic attacks. Says she's on medication because of me, but when I see her with friends she's perfectly fine, so I don't know if she's lying? She also said a couple weeks back, if I were to try and make her feel better - because I was concerned about her anxiety, she'd 'report me'. It was all drama and attention, and we've stopped all contact, and when I see her round university, she's civil with me, but I want her to realise these perceptions she currently has of me, because we've been intimate aren't right. And when we were going out she said it was the happiest she'd been, but then guilt took over, and other crap got in the way, and now things are crap between us, she has this, I can only presume rebound because she's guilty of what me and her have done, and I want her back. Just dunno if it's a hopeless cause now. She's messed up, and I'm messed up cuz of her. But I still want her? I don't get it at all.
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