mtnbiker3000 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I am having trouble processing this as a whole entity. I mean, when I take a step back and look at how the RS started and how I felt (and I think how she felt), to how we both were by the end, 3 years later. It is night and day. I just don't get how we got from A to B. How our feelings changed so much. Resentment, anger, hostility, etc... And, what is really scary is wondering how to avoid a repeat performance since at the beginning, all systems were 'go'
CelticGibson Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Maybe it was a case of the Honeymoon period, the chemistry that trumps compatibility. We only really get to know the true personalities after this has died down, and it does, usually around the 2 year mark where it either converts into real sustainable love or it dies completely. It's true that love is not enough. You have to take into account compatibility and lots of other logistical factors (the boring stuff like financial, employment, goals, whatever) too in order to sustain a relationship. I am sure this is not going to repeat itself if you know what you want and you are sure about them too. Chalk it up to experience and learn from it. That's all you can do...
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Yes, she often spoke of compatibility issues and looking back, we definitely had them. No doubt about it. And, after a while neither of us were truly happy anymore. It became cyclical, slowly getting worse and worse You're right too about the HS. That was pure bliss . Couldn't see any problems/issues for at least 8 months or so. I guess the trick is carefully and slowly navigating that period with a heightened sense of vigilance. Problem is, I tend to get hooked quick, especially with the ex as she was the most beautiful woman I have ever been with. I was weak and stupid. I did this to myself, and now I am paying the price. And it is expensive...
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