Hockeyguy19 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 So my ex just emailed asking if she could come into my work with her new bf (we only broke up a month ago after a 3yr rs) to buy something her parents. I asked her nicely not to come in with him because of the emotional strain it will cause on me. She said she doesn't care and is coming anyways, any advice on how I should handle this? There is plenty of other stores she could buy this item at and by no means needs to come into my workplace.
Author Hockeyguy19 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Rosas - I don't have to help her thank god and yeah she's not a nice person anymore, she knows I'm an emotional wreck and I'm just starting to get better, I don't want to relapse back into what I was a few weeks ago. And yeah she's a slut now, and a bitch. Chi-town - I could call in sick, but I don't know if she's going to show up today or tomorrow, and I don't want her ruining anymore of work performance then she already has, I was pretty down at work for awhile and I'm just starting to get back into a good sales routine.
Keenly Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Shes doing it just to be a bitch. Just ignore her. Women are so ridiculously heartless sometimes.
TaraMaiden Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Oh I am thinking of so many wicked things you could do..... But I can't share. That would be beneath you. And the whole point is to show you don't care. "It's the person who cares the least, who controls the most." You really, really have to make the super-human effort to look completely disinterested. She's being cruel, mean, sadistic and vicious. It's just nasty. And the whole reason she is doing it, is to make you uncomfortable. If you have an understanding colleague who is also a good friend, they can help you with this..... Ignore her, speak to this colleague, and be laughing. Above all, laugh. The one thing she does not want, is for you to be over this. Even if you have to fake it so much, that you would deserve an Oscar - be over this. 4
candie13 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Totally! Politely and smiling ignoring her would be best. If she is doing this to spite you, then avoid contact as much as possible, ignore them, while having a sunny disposition and talking to some colleagues. If you two are civil and are on hello basis, I would actually go to her, say hi, introduce yourself to the new guy in town and say that one of your colleagues will help them to purchase whatever it is that they need to buy. Say good bye, turn around and have an amazing day. If you do that, you would be managing her, instead of her managing you. You want to avoid surprises as much as possible. best of luck! Remember, we're voting for you, for the Leading Male Performer in the Ex-Bitch-Crushing-Oscar awards of the Year! 1
Treasa Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Oh come on, TaraMaiden, please share. It doesn't mean he has to DO them. 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Ringing her parents up - and letting them know she was in shopping, and what she bought - and that she dragged her new BF in, who had a damp spot on his trousers.... and that he couldn't stop stroking her ass, it was sooo embarrassing.... "innocent" stuff like that...... 1
Author Hockeyguy19 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 We are not even close to civil lol, there is such a hate on her level and all heart on mine. But she's just trying to maintain control! That's her game, keep me down and unhappy. She's happy, she's got a new bf, but I can't be happy or move on because she's a bitch like that. Why can't she just leave me the hell alone lol but I'm going to put on a good show when she shows up with him, as hard as that is going to be. All my co-workers know who she is too, she spent enough time at the store with me and hung out with us so I don't know what she expects to get in terms of help, but that's her problem, not mine right?
Author Hockeyguy19 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Oh I am thinking of so many wicked things you could do..... But I can't share. That would be beneath you. And the whole point is to show you don't care. "It's the person who cares the least, who controls the most." You really, really have to make the super-human effort to look completely disinterested. She's being cruel, mean, sadistic and vicious. It's just nasty. And the whole reason she is doing it, is to make you uncomfortable. If you have an understanding colleague who is also a good friend, they can help you with this..... Ignore her, speak to this colleague, and be laughing. Above all, laugh. The one thing she does not want, is for you to be over this. Even if you have to fake it so much, that you would deserve an Oscar - be over this. Ringing her parents up - and letting them know she was in shopping, and what she bought - and that she dragged her new BF in, who had a damp spot on his trousers.... and that he couldn't stop stroking her ass, it was sooo embarrassing.... "innocent" stuff like that...... Lol that's awesome! I could do that, I doubt the purchase is for her parents though, they know I get a pretty killer discount at work and would help them out if they asked, I think this is for HIS mom, and she is just saying that for reasons I don't even know, she's not the brightest girl out there.
AKisBaked Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Really? she's just being a b*tch now.. she's trying to torment you.. I would either call in sick or purposely give her a hard time. Since she's giving u a hard time as well.
LoveB86 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) Nooo the best feeling in the world is showing them that you deserve every right to be at your own job, making money for yourself and your future date, and be just as fine! Why take food away from your table to avoid contact? Man oh man, it hurts so bad but once you see them, you'll either come to terms to accept it or get it back. I'll take acceptance because when the next time she shows up again at your store with him and both of their family, you will be gladly keepin it movin!! You might just feel so bad that you no longer care I work across the street from my ex. He tries so hard to be sneaky, vindictive, arrogant walking around like he "Won". Nope, he's in my territory, he's at my job, I'll never let him think he have me where I "call in sick" when hes here. He cheated on me and dumped me for another co worker. So you see what I had to put up with and gain some strength from the torture everyday! Nope, heartless coward you gonna see me!! Your ex is so dumb lol Make that money $$$!!! Don't let her see you sweat. It's okay to feel how you feel inside, but try not to let the outside ruin you. You don't wanna look weak infront of her right!? That's what I am talking about. Edited May 10, 2013 by LoveB86
crederer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Hahah wow man she's trying to rub it your face. To me, it seems she's just with this guy to make you jealous. It wont last....not that it makes you feel any better but it just goes to show her level of maturity.
Author Hockeyguy19 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Hahah wow man she's trying to rub it your face. To me, it seems she's just with this guy to make you jealous. It wont last....not that it makes you feel any better but it just goes to show her level of maturity. I could have called in and still got paid but I didn't see that as a good option, I have no idea if she's coming today, or tomorrow or if she'll even show. He new bf apparently has gift cards for here (he doesn't even live here and only comes down on weekends, she's messed, not my problem tho) and like I said, I asked her politely to come when I'm not here, and she can't even do that, shows her maturity level. I accept the breakup and am finally realizing she wasn't worth the hassle. And quite frankly this my work place, not hers, and I'm not running from work. She is very immature and she can't be single, ever. She bounced from me right to this guy in 4 days (and they were talking before she dumped me) and I already know he gave her a hard time because she hasn't paid for anything when they have gone out, he was forced to pay (I paid everything, groceries, rent, bills, dinners, trips etc) but hey, sucks to be her, grass isn't always so green, but this side of the lawn is set on fire, don't come back lol 1
oracle Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 You be super pleasant and act happy for her and you pretend like it doesn't matter to you. Life is gonna be full of instances where u pull out all the stops and put on an Oscar level performance. Yes she's a bitch and yes she is doing it to see u hurting. Don't give her the satisfaction Be strong.
Author Hockeyguy19 Posted May 11, 2013 Author Posted May 11, 2013 Thanks guys and girls for all the support, she didnt show up yesterday but she still could today, although that would really suck. I was okay yesterday, but this morning I don't feel as good/confident, mornings have still been the worse throughout this whole BU. I really hate the mornings.
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