love1336x Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) This weekend, I am going to NY to PARTY! I told my ex this, and I ask him if we could hang out before I go clubbing. He said okay. This week, we haven't really txt much. We're suffering from the cold. We even had to called out of work. Yesterday, I ask him. "What are we doing this Saturday?" His response... "Uh nothing, I wanting to say hello" I said... "We can't even get coffee?" His response, "I can't afford it..." I txt him and said, "Well... let's cancel Saturday then?" He never replied back. I assumed... that's a yes, or he knock out because of the cold's medication. To full his tank is about $120. If he can't afford a cup of coffee why should he travel an hour to see me for a quick hello? I don't know I am feeling... dumb.I was hoping for more than a hello and good bye kind of thing. not for us to get back together or anything, just talk in person vs txt, and phone. Ohhh well... I totally misinterpreted "hang out"... @_@ For now on I guess I need to be more clear. My friends tell me that was the nice way of him blowing me off. I gotta admit to waste about 50 dollars in gas for a quick hello, but can't afford a cup of coffee... isn't that odd? Not like i wanting dinner... or, go to a concert. lol... Edited May 10, 2013 by love1336x
Treasa Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 You're 22, he's 18, he goes to Sweet Sixteen parties, and he flirts. Why are you wanting to hang out with him, again? Just go and party. Don't meet up with him. I have no idea why he'd agree to spend that much on driving to see you. Maybe he's changed his mind about it.
swiftly333 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Cold feet? Second thoughts? Something changed? Maybe he's scared? Or maybe h felt too much pressure? But it sound like a lame excuse to me. But don't beat yourself up. We all do "stupid" things. Hell, I feel stupid all the time since my breakup. We're human. And we don't want to be hurt, but you're not stupid for putting yourself out there and giving it a shot. You couldn't have known this is how it would pan out, so don't beat yourself up about it! Work on talking to yourself in a kinder way. Say good things about yourself to yourself instead. (This is what I am working on in therapy right now, too. I tell myself I am/feel stupid all the time an its really toxic!) Keep moving forward 2
Author love1336x Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 You're 22, he's 18, he goes to Sweet Sixteen parties, and he flirts. Why are you wanting to hang out with him, again? Just go and party. Don't meet up with him. I have no idea why he'd agree to spend that much on driving to see you. Maybe he's changed his mind about it. Uhhh... wrong ex. This dude is 27, and a cop. We dated for a year, but the distance, and him cheating on me with his ex kinda ended us! lol.
Author love1336x Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Cold feet? Second thoughts? Something changed? Maybe he's scared? Or maybe h felt too much pressure? But it sound like a lame excuse to me. But don't beat yourself up. We all do "stupid" things. Hell, I feel stupid all the time since my breakup. We're human. And we don't want to be hurt, but you're not stupid for putting yourself out there and giving it a shot. You couldn't have known this is how it would pan out, so don't beat yourself up about it! Work on talking to yourself in a kinder way. Say good things about yourself to yourself instead. (This is what I am working on in therapy right now, too. I tell myself I am/feel stupid all the time an its really toxic!) Keep moving forward Aww, you are so sweet, and right! ^__^ Made me day! I will try! @__@ it's just... i was kinda looking forward to seeing him this week. We been talking for two weeks now. But, life will always throw you a curve ball. I'll never know what's going on in HIS head on less he tells me!
Treasa Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Uhhh... wrong ex. This dude is 27, and a cop. We dated for a year, but the distance, and him cheating on me with his ex kinda ended us! lol. OK, I'll try again. He's long distance and he cheated on you? Why do you want to be with him? Why would he...basically, a repeat of my first reply, but with different circumstances.
Author love1336x Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 OK, I'll try again. He's long distance and he cheated on you? Why do you want to be with him? Why would he...basically, a repeat of my first reply, but with different circumstances. I dont want to be with him. You are being a nasty itch. Why dont you go somewhere else? Are you so bored with your own perfect life that you need to bother strangers? Do you feel better about yourself when you talk crap on a forum? Your mama never taught you any manners? If you cant say anything helpful then dont post at all.
crederer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 She's not being mean, just straight up real talk. She's trying to snap you into reality.
Author love1336x Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 She's not being mean, just straight up real talk. She's trying to snap you into reality. Her last post before this was nasty. Stating out my last boyfriend age. "you're 22 he is 18." Wtf did that have to do with anything? She assumed right off the back that i was with him still. I don't want my ex, and i don't think I said it ANYWHERE on THIS post. That I was wanting him. All i wanting want to meet up, that's all. We been talking for about two weeks. I have no hate for him. Yea he cheated on me. Big woops, wasn't like my panties were gonna dropped when i saw him again.
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