stupid_ex Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 My ex broke up with me over 4.5 months ago. The first 3 months were very hard. We stayed in contact, I chased and did the needy thing. It pushed him away. Then came the push and pull. He has always said that he loves me, cares for me but doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. Or any relationship right now. He is still sexual attracted to me, he said so and he tried to have sex with me one time we were hanging out. It didn't happen. Thanks to me. After the third month, I started no contact. I didn't hear from him in over 6 weeks. He has had a stalker giving him problems. This started before he broke up with me. The stalker is now sending me messages saying my ex never loved me, he is out having sex with other guys etc....saying stuff to rub it in. I contacted my ex about it. My ex came straight over without asking. I was pissed off with the stalker and my ex. I told my ex to eff off. My ex wouldn't leave and kept on messaging me. I messaged back and we are now on talking terms. He texted me the other night at 1am to visit me. He did, we talked for 1/2 hour and he left. As he was standing at the car, he put his arms out and hugged me. Wouldn't let me go for ages. He then rested his head and lips on my neck and said he was sorry. We talked some more. He asked for another hug. He showed me he carries a picture of me in his wallet (with other photos of his friends). I am moving overseas in July. He asked, why do I have to leave? I said, you should be happy that I am leaving. No more texting, phones calls or me cramping your style. You can finally move on with your life with out me. he said No that is not true. I feel he isn't too happy with me leaving. This means i will be leaving him for good. He confessed that he came over because he wanted to see me. He cherishes out time together and he doesn't regret our relationship. He still loves and cares for me deeply. I am the first person he really connected with. That is my story so far. I still love my ex but I am now committed to working in South America. My question is: 1/ Why is he acting like this? All of sudden, showing me attention. (I still believe he doesn't want to be in a relationship) he has told me there is no one else. 2/ How can I use this situation to my advantage? This stalker has brought us closer together. I am kind of happy this stalker is messaging me. It sounds crazy but it's working. 3/ from now until I leave, do I spend more time with the ex building up the good times and then leave for my trip or do I just cut off all contact now and still leave? Your input would be most helpful. Thank you. This is a same sex relationship btw.
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