Brahtha Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 First off I'd like to say sorry because this is a bit of a long story, please bear with me. Recently, I met this girl I really liked. I am a 24 year old photographer based here in the Philippines, and this girl I recently met is currently in fashion school. She's 5 years younger than me, and she went to the same high school I went to before. So, I thought why not ask her to be a stylist for one my shoots. After a few days after our project was done, I texted her up and asked how she was doing. She replied that night and we just hit it off, I though we got along pretty well. We texted that evening and even talked on Facebook. The days that followed she had to go to Hongkong because her family runs a business there. We talked everyday, and she even initiates the conversation sometimes, like she would greet me good morning and stuff. I was overwhelmed because she was giving me her attention which felt really good. She would be really sweet during that time. At first we were talking everyday for the first 2 weeks, then suddenly she grew distant. She didn't want to talk on the phone anymore, and she kept on giving out excuses. From then on, I started getting confused and started asking questions to myself whether she really liked me or not. We would set up dates for us to meet up, but prior to those dates I would always feel that she was backing off, and then I'd lose confidence. She would act flakey and always change up the plans. So what I'd do was put it off and give her reasons why I can't meet her. I know it's because of my insecurity and lack of confidence. I just kept on playing the scenario over and over again in my head, that she was stringing me along. After that, I felt wronged and did something really stupid and deleted her from FB, Twitter, etc. and didn't talk to her for a week. A week later, I just couldn't bear not talking to her, and then I just texted her to explain what happened. I told her that I had done something so childish and selfish, that I did those things because I assumed "things" that I never really heard directly from her. I told her that I just wanted to genuinely get to know her that's why I was asking her out. I know I shouldn't have spilled my guts, but what's done is done. I told her part of me was getting too ahead of myself, I also told her that because I liked her I was wishing things would work out between the two of us. I told her I was being selfish because I had no control over other people's feelings and I was responsible for my actions solely. At this point, I wasn't really hoping that I would still be able to go out with her still. But she replied, and told me that she was really sorry if she made me felt like she was avoiding me, she was just really busy. She told me she really appreciates me being honest with her. I don't know if she's just feeling bad that's why she apologized. Later I asked her out still, and she agreed! At this point, I wasn't texting her everyday anymore like before. She told me she will check her schedule and she will update me. At this point I wasn't really sure if she was going to text or not. I asked one week before, and we were supposed to go out the following Thursday. She texted Monday afternoon, and told me she was free. I told her I'd pick her up at her house, and she agreed and gave me her address. I do know that her attraction is really low, because she kept on testing me, because I was acting like such a ***** all this time, and was chasing after her. I stumbled upon a book recently by Corey Wayne, How to Be a 3% Man. Prior to our date there was thing which was mentioned in that book happened to me, how she changed up the plans and wanted to meetup outside because she was still at work. I didn't flinch I told her don't worry she'll be ready by the time I get to her house by 7pm. She then asked if I was sure because her mom wouldn't let her go out anymore if she got to her house by dinner time. I used your "if you're mom's not going to let you go out, I'll ask your mom out instead!" It worked! She suddenly changed her mind. And next thing, she asks me if she could park her car at my house. She then came to my house yesterday night and I drove to our date. During the date I was reading her levels of interest, I was a bit put off at first because she kept on checking her cellphone. I told her jokingly to put it away and then she did. I was asking questions and she kept on talking the whole date and I listened, she was sharing stuff about her family, friends and our conversation was very light and fun. When she got home she told me she enjoyed our conversation yesterday night. I haven't talked to her since last night, and I'm still contemplating whether go out with her again or not. As I'm rereading this whole story I'm a right now, I'm a bit puzzled as to what just transpired. Do you guys think it's a lost cause with this girl?
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