skeptic sheep Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 my fiance and I have been together for over 5 years. we have a 2 year old. two days ago my fiance asks out of the blue, if she could sleep with other men. I was stunned. she's very insecure about her sexuality and I agreed that if she really felt she needed to go out and glory a bit, that I would be okay with it. I know she loves me and I love her. I also didn't feel like she would actually go through with it. today she told me she would probably be going out with some girlfriends so if she didn't come home, if know where she was. my heart sank. she claims she needs to experience sleeping with someone else because she never had the opportunity before we met. I was not her first. she had several partners before me. am I am idiot for believing she was bluffing? has anyone else been through anything like this? I figured since we had just talked about this that she would take some time before bringing it up again. she said she didn't have anyone lined up. but I'm having so many doubts. It's eating me up already... any advice?
Treasa Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I, personally, would say, "You can sleep with whomever you want, but we are no longer together." And then immediately start making plans for how the child will be cared for. 5
TigerCub Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 oyi..... I don't get people. If she wanted to experience other men - why would she have kid with you, tie herself to you and agree to marry you. If you didn't want her to f**k other men, why the hell would you say "yeah, hun go ahead - just be sure not to bring back an std" (that's pretty much what you said when you agreed to it.). Some people can do open relationships - but obviously that's not going to be you. So you need to have a clear and HONEST conversation about this. And stand your ground, don't say you're ok with something if you're not going to be. 3
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 All this does is change the nature of your relationship. You two can't trust each other. She can't trust you to say how you really feel and you can't trust her with your feelings. The relationship can still work. It's just going to be a lot more about convenience than love, affection and kindness.
Treasa Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 If you paid for the ring, make sure you get it back from her. 4
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