freetolove Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 3 years I was the girl version of a typical ******* guy. i dated around, do whatever i want, break hearts and don't really give a damn if you judge me because i'm having so much fun. immature to say the least. eitherway, i've grown up and now want to find someone more serious, get married, etc. there's one guy that i have in mind that might be a good match but i can't help feeling that i might go back to my old ways. i don't want to hurt anyone. i genuinely want to be in a loving relationship, i'm just not sure if i am made to be loyal. any thoughts?
The Shepherd Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) Yeah. Go back to your old ways until you are sure you can be loyal and please don't forget to tell all the guys you are dating that you are dating around. Edited May 10, 2013 by The Shepherd
soccerrprp Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) 3 years I was the girl version of a typical ******* guy. i dated around, do whatever i want, break hearts and don't really give a damn if you judge me because i'm having so much fun. immature to say the least. eitherway, i've grown up and now want to find someone more serious, get married, etc. there's one guy that i have in mind that might be a good match but i can't help feeling that i might go back to my old ways. i don't want to hurt anyone. i genuinely want to be in a loving relationship, i'm just not sure if i am made to be loyal. any thoughts? Be up front from the beginning and WARN every decent guy that you may not be trustworthy or simply date the guys who only want to use you too. Ugh. Edited May 11, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
The Shepherd Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 If she is serious, what she needs is not a husband but a father to forgive her and also protect her from whatever she will do for the rest of her life.
candie13 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 there's one guy that i have in mind that might be a good match but i can't help feeling that i might go back to my old ways. i don't want to hurt anyone. i genuinely want to be in a loving relationship, i'm just not sure if i am made to be loyal. any thoughts? well, everyone wants to be loved, but not everyone is worthy of love. By your actions, you seem not to be... so far. The difference between men and animals is that men have the capacity to reason, to think. Men choose to say yes and to say no to choices. I am afraid I don't understand your dilemma. You simply need to be mature enough and say No to temptation, if you're seeing someone. Are you into instant gratification, you think you are better than your partners if you cheat or is it the fact that you cannot resist the urge to cheat? If you are a normal human being, making choices and sticking to them should be something linked to will and to how much control you can exert onto your libido (immediate pleasure by sleeping around or a sense of love and dedication by not). Don't think that people in relationships don't occasionally get tempted. They all do. but there's a difference between bumping into temptation and seeking temptation. There's an even more impressive difference between feeling tempted to cheat and actually going ahead and doing so. Impulses are not meant to drive behavior, when it comes to full grown adults . 1
Taramere Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 3 years I was the girl version of a typical ******* guy. i dated around, do whatever i want, break hearts and don't really give a damn if you judge me because i'm having so much fun. immature to say the least. eitherway, i've grown up and now want to find someone more serious, get married, etc. there's one guy that i have in mind that might be a good match but i can't help feeling that i might go back to my old ways. i don't want to hurt anyone. i genuinely want to be in a loving relationship, i'm just not sure if i am made to be loyal. any thoughts? How old are you? If you're in your very early twenties then I think the behaviour you're describing can be more easily attributable to immaturity. Not that immaturity is necessarily a great excuse, since most people demonstrate more empathy and consideration than you're describing even while they're still in their teens. Still, as an excuse immaturity is probably your best bet. If you're into your mid or late twenties or older then it seems more likely that your behaviour is down to temperamental factors that probably aren't going to change on a long term basis, even if you wish they would.
The Shepherd Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 (edited) Tara, I went through some of her posts. She is 28 I think. The girl is being manipulated and exploited and she doesn't even recognize it, sometimes even against her will (her so-called FWB or bf pressing her breasts in public and in front of a bunch of her friends in a parking lot). Neither she nor her other friends had the courage to stand up for her and defend her dignity. Some nice friends she has. Edited May 11, 2013 by The Shepherd
StanMusial Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Tara, I went through some of her posts. She is 28 I think. The girl is being manipulated and exploited and she doesn't even recognize it, sometimes even against her will (her so-called FWB or bf pressing her breasts in public and in front of a bunch of her friends in a parking lot). Neither she nor her other friends had the courage to stand up for her and defend her dignity. Some nice friends she has. Sometimes people get a certain reputation. It is sad when they try to go against type, it is a long hard road to shake off that baggage.
Revolver Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 People might talk crap about you but this is common among alot of women. Sleep with tons of guys in your late teens early mid 20's then at the back end want to desire a LTR
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Just go for it. If he gets hurt he gets hurt. You are under no obligation to worry about the feelings of others. Go after what you want. Stop worrying about whether you might hurt someone. Even people with "bad" histories need love too...
Imported Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 If you're not sure you can be loyal and trustworthy to one guy, than you can't be. Probably ever. I've met women like that. No matter how good they have it, they **** around. Always "tempted" to suck a different cock. **** another person. Them + alcohol, forget about it. Not a question of if they get another guys cock in them, just how many. No respect for girls like that at all. Wish you came with a warning label stappled to your forehead.
StanMusial Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 If you're not sure you can be loyal and trustworthy to one guy, than you can't be. Probably ever. I've met women like that. No matter how good they have it, they **** around. Always "tempted" to suck a different cock. **** another person. Them + alcohol, forget about it. Not a question of if they get another guys cock in them, just how many. No respect for girls like that at all. Wish you came with a warning label stappled to your forehead. It's not stapled on their forehead but it is usually fairly obvious if you look hard enough.
Imported Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 It's not stapled on their forehead but it is usually fairly obvious if you look hard enough. The obvious ones are obvious.........obviously. However, not all of them are obvious. Some of them....maybe like the one here...will try real hard, but when any little problem happens....'oops, how did that penis get in there, must'a been accidentally inserted..yeah'. Or some crazy slut logic where it was my fault she got drunk and ****ed around. I don't understand the temptation to **** around when I have found a girl I care about. It is not a question to me on if it is possible for me to be an honest and faithful person. I think if you have to think about basic **** like this, it is not a question of if you give in to "temptation", but when.
Drseussgrrl Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Dang there are a lot of bitter people on this site. Look, it all comes down to expectations and boundaries. I don't see where the OP said she cheats on a regular basis. I see "players" settle down all the time once they meet someone who really lights their fire.
The Shepherd Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Dang you have no idea what's going on here. Dang you need to understand that what that girl needs is long-term help not another man in her life.
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