crispywat Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Well after 4 dates my "friend" has decided we are just that friends. Sadly she led me on a little but, we had 4 dates the first 2 where rather limited time wise events, the 3rd a saturday night in a bar and 4th we spent the day out at a park with a picnic. All was going great we flirted on texts etc but we never really got to 2nd base with kissing etc. We had kisses but in public and over a meal table things are hard. I dropped her off twice and she never asked if I wanted to go into her house etc. Since the last date she says its basically sa she now realises we have no spark and she wants a man to be touchy feely and kissing all the time, surely if i had done that it would of been a mistake having just getting to know her. She says i am great but obviously not , she also says she has never met such a decent bloke in her life. When we was seeing each other she said she was so happy etc then BANG it all changed. What do i do now i cant win her back she is adament we arent meant to be, and shows little signs of caring about it. She even suggested at lwast now she has the belief that other men exisit so she is happy yo look elsewhere cause of me!! hat did i do wrong and can i amend the situation, i would of loved to of touched her up etc, i think though she is used to men with hot bodies and not perhaps an average build. The worst thing is on the last date she was soo up for seeing me more then nothing apart from bad news. She also claimed i wasnt exual enough and we wouldnt of had a good sex life due to this, but she never gave it a chance!!! Really uspet she was a wonderful woman i wont find anyone again
freetolove Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 get over it, she ****ing played you, move on and treat her bad if she tries to call you again. 1
Geiss Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 What ever you do don't allow yourself to be friendzoned.
carhill Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 She even suggested at lwast now she has the belief that other men exisit so she is happy yo look elsewhere cause of me!! She was looking all along and found one. Move on.
Author crispywat Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 What ever you do don't allow yourself to be friendzoned. What does friendzoned mean ? As in she wants to be friends (apaprently )?
Graduate Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Wow, for a second there I thought you were the guy I just stopped dating a few days ago. But then I read the reason she ended things and with me it was exactly the opposite - he pushed for physical intimacy too quickly. I know it sucks, but I don't think you did anything wrong. You can never know how someone wants to be courted, and while some women seem to like physical intimacy quickly others don't. The only thing you can do it be true to yourself and act in a way that feels right to you. That way you show her who you really are and if she doesn't want to be with you, then at least it is for the person you really are, and not who you pretended to be. My advice is to try and forget her, and get out there and find someone new. If she is just not feeling it, there is nothing you can do to change her mind. She might not even have given you the real reason. Maybe she was dating someone else as well, and decided that she wants to pursue things exclusively with him.
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 We aren't going to be compatible with everyone we date. That's the whole point of dating. To see if there might be a connection. There wasn't. Move on rather than perseverate over a dead end. Over three billion more women out there. Is she the most special out of 3 billion? I highly doubt it. NEXT!!
phineas Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Well after 4 dates my "friend" has decided we are just that friends. Sadly she led me on a little but, we had 4 dates the first 2 where rather limited time wise events, the 3rd a saturday night in a bar and 4th we spent the day out at a park with a picnic. All was going great we flirted on texts etc but we never really got to 2nd base with kissing etc. We had kisses but in public and over a meal table things are hard. I dropped her off twice and she never asked if I wanted to go into her house etc. Since the last date she says its basically sa she now realises we have no spark and she wants a man to be touchy feely and kissing all the time, surely if i had done that it would of been a mistake having just getting to know her. She says i am great but obviously not , she also says she has never met such a decent bloke in her life. When we was seeing each other she said she was so happy etc then BANG it all changed. What do i do now i cant win her back she is adament we arent meant to be, and shows little signs of caring about it. She even suggested at lwast now she has the belief that other men exisit so she is happy yo look elsewhere cause of me!! hat did i do wrong and can i amend the situation, i would of loved to of touched her up etc, i think though she is used to men with hot bodies and not perhaps an average build. The worst thing is on the last date she was soo up for seeing me more then nothing apart from bad news. She also claimed i wasnt exual enough and we wouldnt of had a good sex life due to this, but she never gave it a chance!!! Really uspet she was a wonderful woman i wont find anyone again You'll find another one. And don't listen to what she says. It's a mind-screw on her part. Don't contact her & if she contacts you tell her you got enough friends because I promise the only reason for her to contact you is to keep giving you false hope so you keep paying attention to her.
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