tinam Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I can't believe what i am going through. I've been happily married so i thought for 15 years. Have 3 beautiful kids. I come home 2 days ago and see this look on my husbands face ill never forget. I asked what was wrong he just kept saying i don't wanna talk about it. Ok a little back info.When we first got married after 2 months he came home sat down blew me away said i can't do this. Long story shirt he left. We divorced for 2years but never really stayed appart. Its like we were dating again i guess.well then i found out i was pregnant and weather that pushed it along cause wed been taliking about it it. But we officially git back together. After a few weeks he changed his mind again! But then did again. Well after that it was really good. We remarried. Been together almost 16 years. I guess I've always had the worry of him leaving again whenever wed argue i suppose cause he done it so easily before. So when i saw his face the other day my heart fell. Even through we've been fine. We don't even fight. We're one if those couples other couples hate. After the kids went to bed he says he hadn't been happy for some time. IAfter fighting a while it also came it he's been cheating on me. This is so not him. I am crushed and shocked. And feel do foolish for not seeing any signs at all. Im in a rollercoaster. Im numb Then i m so mad i want to throw things and hit things then the pain is so bad i fe I can't breath. It was heartbreaking to sit the kids down and tell them . I hate him. How am i suppose to get through this. Everything was fine 2 days ago!
Shocked Suzie Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I can't believe what i am going through. I've been happily married so i thought for 15 years. Have 3 beautiful kids. I come home 2 days ago and see this look on my husbands face ill never forget. I asked what was wrong he just kept saying i don't wanna talk about it. Ok a little back info.When we first got married after 2 months he came home sat down blew me away said i can't do this. Long story shirt he left. We divorced for 2years but never really stayed appart. Its like we were dating again i guess.well then i found out i was pregnant and weather that pushed it along cause wed been taliking about it it. But we officially git back together. After a few weeks he changed his mind again! But then did again. Well after that it was really good. We remarried. Been together almost 16 years. I guess I've always had the worry of him leaving again whenever wed argue i suppose cause he done it so easily before. So when i saw his face the other day my heart fell. Even through we've been fine. We don't even fight. We're one if those couples other couples hate. After the kids went to bed he says he hadn't been happy for some time. IAfter fighting a while it also came it he's been cheating on me. This is so not him. I am crushed and shocked. And feel do foolish for not seeing any signs at all. Im in a rollercoaster. Im numb Then i m so mad i want to throw things and hit things then the pain is so bad i fe I can't breath. It was heartbreaking to sit the kids down and tell them . I hate him. How am i suppose to get through this. Everything was fine 2 days ago! Ahh Tina, sorry to hear this... Sadly I and many here understand all too well how you are feeling. I too was left in total shock Xmas time .... What are your thoughts?? If you have any atm ... is there anything left to work on or do you think it's well and truly over? I does get easier in time xx
Author tinam Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 I truly don't know. I small in shock. I have been sick all morning. Trying to force does food. Have a nonstop like butterflies in stomach feeling. I think its worth joking on. I didn't know there was even a problem. I mentioned it to him and all he said is i can't stay. So i guess it was just so far gone for him where he's just done. Or he has real feelings for the homewrecker he slept with. He wouldn't say. This is just to unreal. I have no clue what to do next and how to deal. Thank you for replying. I haven't even told my family yet cause Will make it to real i guess. And i think if he changes his mind they Will hate him. Ugh. Important a mess. And now i gotta go to work when i can barely function.
Tom amoss Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Tinam. Can you take the day of sick, you need to be with someone, Your family are important, I think you should tell them, you need support right now, you didn’t create this situation. Get help. Be with someone you can trust. I know how you feel I really do. I was right there 2 months ago. BE WITH SOMEONE NOW. I really hope you can. Tom
Bluesandy Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I can't believe what i am going through. I've been happily married so i thought for 15 years. Have 3 beautiful kids. How am i suppose to get through this. Everything was fine 2 days ago! I can feel your pain, I was in the same situation last February with my wife of 23 years. I thought everything was fine and even getting better (more money, bigger kids, more time to have fun), then she disappeared with her boss letting me alone with my 3 girls nad telling me she never loved me... even if she was still telling me she love me back in January... I think some people are really mentally disturbed, and unfortunately, you never know what to expect. Some are lucky, and stay happy all their life, and some like us got a bomb in their life... I was dead, till I met a new mate who illuminated my life again... The most important thing to remind is there are pleinty of other people waiting in the dark to be even a better person than your previous partner. Courage André
GuyInLimbo Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Tina, you've been run over by a bus. Please make an appt with a therapist right away. You need someone by your side to help guide you through this mess. Terribly sorry you have to deal with this.
Author tinam Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Hi Tom.No there is no way to take a sick day. I do private duty nursing and she has no one else. Your right Andre i do think he may be mentaly disturbed in some way. I just hope im not so damaged and untrusting for anyone in the future.
Shocked Suzie Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 I truly don't know. I small in shock. I have been sick all morning. Trying to force does food. Have a nonstop like butterflies in stomach feeling. I think its worth joking on. I didn't know there was even a problem. I mentioned it to him and all he said is i can't stay. So i guess it was just so far gone for him where he's just done. Or he has real feelings for the homewrecker he slept with. He wouldn't say. This is just to unreal. I have no clue what to do next and how to deal. Thank you for replying. I haven't even told my family yet cause Will make it to real i guess. And i think if he changes his mind they Will hate him. Ugh. Important a mess. And now i gotta go to work when i can barely function. Tina try not to panic too much, I found work was my rock! I agree with Tom, its the time to tell your family and close friends, you will find most people aren't judgmental and will support whatever choices you make... You need all the support you can get. Take one day at a time! I fully understand what you are feeling right now, all I can say it does settle in time...but know it atm is the worst, most confusing saddest time ever...it will get better! Give yourself a few days, try to work out where he is at... And more importantly what you want and if he was to stay, do you want him ???? If the answer is no, then you need to start to think logically! Kids, money, bank accounts ... Your home. Xx
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