15499842 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I met some girl which is attractive in a strange way. I kinda became friends with her, one night she texted me after she went home from a night out with a bunch of classmates (I was there also) and said she enjoyed the night blah blah blah. I didnt have her number until I got this text. A few days later I texted her and asked her how she was, started chatting more and then asked her to hang out. At this stage I only saw her once a week in class. She agreed to hang out and we set a date. The night before she cancelled it. I said it was fine and she asked if I wanted to go next week, I said yeah sure. Then didn't contact her about a follow up as I thought if she wanted it then she would come to me. Time passed and I continued to see her once a week in class where I was polite but didn't talk to her much. About a month after her cancelling the initial date we had planned I got a random text from her best friend asking me if I was interested in the girl I asked on the date. I said "yeah sure why not, she seems nice, the reason I stopped contacting her was because I assumed she would reschedule if she wanted to hang out". The best friend said I should try harder. So I initiated contact with the girl again and organised to hangout again, she said she was busy for the next 6 days but after that she was free, so we agreed on this Sunday. I saw her in class yesterday and expressed a reasonable amount of interest in her and she said she will contact me on Sunday about hanging out, we said roughly 6pm though. I will see how Sunday goes but this seems shaky right, I mean we are in university and she gets her friend to see if I am interested? I am assuming she asked her friend to ask me. I hate these mind games, a little transparency would be nice. I got no clue where I stand, any ideas?
MidwestUSA Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I agree she's kinda flaky, but some women are all about having the men chase, even after SHE cancelled on YOU. Pin her down hard about the Sunday outing - set a specific time and place. Let her know some very specific details, for example "I'm packing a picnic lunch, what kind of cheese (or wine, fruit, whatever) do you like?". Be very firm about it, so she won't be tempted to flake knowing you've put in so much effort. If she does flake, then you have your answer, she's just too washy washey. And she'll have reason to feel a bit guilty if she did cancel. Good luck!
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