Shannon.m Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I'll try and keep this short and hopefully get someones opinion here. I ended a 6 month relationship with a girl because for the last 2 months of the relationship she started acting weird, sex slowed down and eventually stopped. For the whole month of april any and every attempt i made of doing something with her she responded with either i'm too tired, too busy, or never picked up the phone on replied to texts. In the last week of april, had been about 2 weeks since i had spoken to her she decided to set up a date. I gladly said yes and we went out and after dinner we finally got to talking and she said "at one point i felt like i could move on with you but not anymore" and she also said "i don't want anybody including you. I just don't want a relationship right now". So the next morning after i did a bit of thinking i decided to go to her house and return her hard drive(plays a role in this topic)and end it. Things didn't go to well she said that's not what she wanted and ran upstairs. When she came back down her face and eyes were red and her voice sounded like she had been crying while she was up there. after that little incident we talked about me moving on and her moving on but after all that we were cool and still talking. The next day at work when i walked into the breakroom she made it obvious that she had gone to lunch with another one of the coworkers and then proceeded to have a conversation about it in front of me to possibly rub it in maybe? After her break was over she says goodbye to the other guy pats him on the shoulder and leaves without ever looking at me or in my general direction. After all that i figured she just wasn't worth my time anymore as she made it obvious that she could care less about me at that point. So i wrote a note telling her i was done and from here on out it was all on her if she felt she needed to say something to me she had my email, phone number, address and whatnot and stuck it in her locker. After about a week i get a call from her saying that i messed up her hard drive. So i offered to take a loot at it at some point, she then proceeded to ask what i was doing and if i was working that night and how she had forgotten that i was going somewhere that past friday and that she wanted to go with me.After the quick conversation she said "ok ill let u go now" and wouldn't hang up the phone as i could still hear the t.v in the background so i went to hang up my phone then brought it up to my ear and could still hear the t.v so i finally hung up. It's been about 4 days since we spoke and it got me thinking and i started wanting to text her and call her back. But i asked myself why did she actually call me with the stupid excuse about the hard drive? did she really want to talk to me? why was she being so cold with me in the first place and kept ignoring me and giving me excuses for not wanting to go out? Is it false hope at this point, does she just want to mess with me? should i ask her why she called? I'm looking for advice here if anyone had a similar situation or just has an opinion? Also one last thing i personally think that at some point while we were together she found someone else which is why the sex stopped and she started being cold towards but there's no way i know for sure. And now the fact that she call me with such a stupid excuse makes me wonder what the hell is actually going on.
swiftly333 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Maybe it was just an excuse to.call you but don't read too much into it. people do stupid things when they are sad and lonely....I would say you can let this one interaction occupy you thoughts too much until she really starts acting interested and says something about wanting you back.
immitable Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 (edited) here's the deal, she started seeing someone from work, secretly. This other person is either in a relationship or married, so she has only sex with him but can't show it publicly. She would like to keep you on a string when the nights get cold and she is all by herself. That is why she gets mad at you (hard drive issue). In other words she needs you as her security blanket but has no feelings for you, my advice - run away from her. Edited May 13, 2013 by immitable
Recommended Posts