Estate Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Ok... here is pretty much how I go from having met a girl to meeting her on a date. I do this for all girls and it works well. Some point later after having got her number... "Hi Miss X, this is Estate, just wanted to say Hi. <insert random reference to previous conversation to show you were listening>" "Hi Estate, haha, <her response to my statement>, how's you're day?" "It's going great X, I just <did something cool or fun or awesome>, let's get together for that drink Friday, I heard of a nice place downtown which just opened up" "Sure, sounds good, what time were you thinking?" or... "I can't Friday, I have a party, how about Saturday?" "Great, Friday <or Saturday> at 8... I'll meet you next to <some place>. Looking forward to it." That's it...! You can copy and paste, just change it around to suit the interaction. It's not even a script or anything that I use... it's just that it's that simple, say Hi, suggest a date, confirm it and meet her.. that's all a phone number is. A phone call does nothing for me, she can be the sweetest person in the world, it's not going to do anything for me unless she's sitting in front of me.
Estate Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Jerk: Re-read Estate's posts. From what you post and what we've talked about behind closed doors, I think your "problem" is what I hear many guys telling other guys: you care too much. If you give less of a [bleep], but still demonstrate interest, I think you'll have more success. Yes, definitely correct. And before anyone says it... it's NOT about being a badboy or a jerk. When you DO text a girl back... always be nice and respectful and cheerful and shell sense the good mood... But don't be clamoring to text her back and call her and be available for her any second. You've never met and you can bet she's not making herself that available to you yet.... it sets the wrong tone... it gives the impression you don't have other things going on, even if you do, you just didn't give that impression in this case, yet still missed a call. At the early stages also... reliability is a big thing because with OLD especially, people are flakey and unreliable, if she so much as sniffs any of that from you, it's game over. 1
Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Ok, I apologize but I don't think you can fix this anymore since she's lost interest. However, no regrets, just lessons learned right? Now let's see what you did wrong, for future references. (1) Do not make appointments to call, they rarely happen on time. Trust me, I've done this and I actually kept my promise. But, guess what? The girl I was calling never answered the phone and I wrongfully assumed that she didn't wanna talk to me when in reality she fell asleep because she was so tired from work. (2) Never call more than once, if she doesn't reply. I think you may have scared her off when you insisted on calling. I don't have any experience on doing this but I once called a girl and left a short voicemail and never called again . I was freaking out cause she didn't return my call but guess what? She called me a week later and we set up a date. My point is, you have to give a girl her own space. Making scheduled calls for both parties is difficult to keep and it puts too much pressure between both parties. However, if you end up seeing her in person the best thing you can do is just apologize for what happened but don't expect or ask for anything else. Maybe once she sees your sorry for what happened she'll give you a second chance.
Author Imajerk17 Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Update: We're cool. We just talked on the phone and had a really nice conversation. The issue was NOTHING like what I thought it was. 2
ThaWholigan Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Update: We're cool. We just talked on the phone and had a really nice conversation. The issue was NOTHING like what I thought it was. Usually the case 1
Mr Suave Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Pretty ridiculous. Give it a week or so and try talking to her again. Also I hope you met her in real life and not through the internet.
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