BustedUpInside Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 So, when my ex broke up with me, I moved to another state about a month later. Once I finally went no contact about two months after moving, I decided that I should delete him from Facebook to remove my temptation to stalk him online. It was just making me sad to see him having fun with our mutual friends, especially any single women. Well, one of our friends (more mine than his) and I have been leaving each other friendly comments. Sometimes, they might come off as more flirty but I think that it might just seem that way because we are both single and people really like to play matchmaker. Well, anyway I heard from another friend that my ex was making all sorts of comments about how I was probably seeing this guy before I left and that he should have been more suspicious of that friend's motives from the beginning. All I knew about my ex's behavior was that before I deleted him, he was spending way more time on Facebook than he ever had in the six years previously. He used to only go on like once a month or so, but now he is posting new stuff almost every day. It is usually about how much fun he was having or how much better he was looking after working out. These things are why I finally made the decision to remove him from my friends After my friend told me about his behavior, I was a little shocked. I couldn't believe that he was actually jealous because he never expressed that emotion the entire time we were together so I was definitely surprised that he felt it after he dumped me. My question is should I be happy that he is feeling at least a little of the same pain that I am going through, or should I just try and not think about it because it is just keeping my mind on something that I should be trying to forget.
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 I'd be happy if it was me. I probably would try to rub it in a little more indirectly was well. Just me though. That was exactly my thinking. I talked it over with two friends and got conflicting reviews though. One said to take the high road and just forget I ever heard the information because it would hold me back, while the other friend said I should try to rub it in a little because he deserves it and a little petty revenge would make me feel even better than being mature. I am torn between what I think I should do and what I want to do. 1
Bigcitydreamer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I would take the high road even though it might be harder. Either way whatever you do, it doesn't really matter. Except when you look back on the situation years later you will feel better about yourself and how you handled the situation.
LoveB86 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 The best revenge is no revenge at all. I did alot of research on this today regarding dumpees getting satisfaction with karma and revenge and so forth. If I were you, I would leave it all alone. It's none of his concern of who/what/where are you or might be doing. He needs to save the drama and stop trying to play "Mr. Good guy" because he ain't! Continue to do you and let him be. Gosh I know how you feel though but I wouldn't want any "revenge/bad luck/karma" or any of that coming back to me for trying to get back at someone else. Let his mind wonder wonder wonder allll day and all night. Keep remaining a mystery. 1
aisuru Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Of course he is jealous. But this is a way for him to build you up as the bad guy and to make himself feel justified. Don't stoop to his level. Just do what you're doing. 2
LoveB86 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 BTW, I hope you have a good weekend! Hang on tight!! I am trying! Sooner or later, we will look back at all this and shake our heads, throw our hands up and Thank God these heartless jerks are no longer apart of our lives. 1
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 You guys are right. I have decided to be mature. It just felt really good that he got to experience some of the pain that he put me through, but it isn't helping me get over him to dwell on future ways to make him sad....even if he totally deserves it!!
LoveB86 Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Yess I know. It's hard.. i mean, I don't even understand why I comment threads because even my emotions are wishy washy. You said you guys were together for 6 years?? That is something that you cannot just forget in 3 months. Time is on your side..
oracle Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Just forget about it. You don't win in the end , nobody does. Take it from me. I live with my ex and I got to watch his new relationship turn into a major mess. Nice to see but it brings no solace in the end. The real win is when none of it matters one ounce to you anymore.
Giha Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I think the best thing to feel about this is indifference. 1
Atalya Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Like LoveB86 said no revenge is the best plan of action. Revenge is not the answer to these kind of things. Be the bigger person. Oh my god, my ex boyfriend is so similar. He has tried so hard to make me jealous and get reactions. We are at 25 days NC. I have chosen not to react or give him the time of day at all. I'm the more mature one in this because I handled it better than he did, he made a lot of mistakes. Do not go to his level. Do your life and let things go on. It's best to act indifferent to these things. I do every time someone tells me about his statuses and everything. I say I don't give two ****s and I mean it. It's childish games. Lol.
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