Author Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Well that's different. So why the line about having to "convince her" and "it took three years"? I used the words out of context but I had to convince her because she told my sister this: "I considered dating him but he's such a good guy that if I ever broke his heart, I would hate myself." Basically, she said she didn't want a relationship with me at first since she was afraid she would only hurt me but I convinced her and she said she's felt the same way about me all those years.
jolie_baby Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I think when women are younger, they may prefer alpha males, but with age and when they start looking for life partnerships, they look for different traits in a man....
LittleTiger Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) I used the words out of context but I had to convince her because she told my sister this: "I considered dating him but he's such a good guy that if I ever broke his heart, I would hate myself." Basically, she said she didn't want a relationship with me at first since she was afraid she would only hurt me but I convinced her and she said she's felt the same way about me all those years. If she had strong feelings for you, what made her think she would hurt you or break your heart? Did she use to be a 'bad girl' who dated 'bad boys' and you were her 'nice guy' friend waiting in the wings until she was ready to settle down? Sometimes it's just a matter of timing. This topic has been covered numerous times but I think BeholdtheMan has given the best answer I've seen yet. Absolutely spot on! Edited May 10, 2013 by LittleTiger
Emilia Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Not sure what you're asking but nah a girl has to have high standards. No girl on her right mind is going to just start a relationship with some random guy and they shouldn't. Really? Why not? Is a woman not capable deciding relatively quickly whether she wants to date someone or not? Do you date dolls or human beings with grey matter between the ears? For me, I actually thought I had no chance to be hers but I was clueless since she felt the same about me too but her mind was telling her something diff. I had to convince her that her heart mattered more than her mind, and it took 3 years! How terribly unadventurous for you.
freetolove Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 your statement is too broad. are they ugly good guys? i like good guys, good guys that are hot and have a big dick. 1
LittleTiger Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 your statement is too broad. are they ugly good guys? i like good guys, good guys that are hot and have a big dick. :lmao:
xxoo Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 However you can also be exciting, confident, passionate, strong without being a womaniser. If you can pull this off, you're what I call "a real catch" A good guy on the streets, and a bad boy in the sheets 3
Treasa Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Most good guys really aren't as good as they think they are. A charming ******* is going to get more than a whiny *******. 4
Author Somethngcreative Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Really? Why not? Is a woman not capable deciding relatively quickly whether she wants to date someone or not? Do you date dolls or human beings with grey matter between the ears? I define relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend so that's what I meant . Yes, I agree any woman can decide right away if they want to date someone and get to know them before they start a relationship.
sillyanswer Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 However, some girls in the past never even gave me a chance because I was "too nice." If that's what they told you they were being "too nice" and not saying what they really thought about you. Anyways, out of curiosity, why do some girls prefer bad guys over good guys? Is it because us nice guys are considered safe and boring or something else? Thanks Something else. It isn't that nice equals boring, it's that boring isn't what she wants to date, then she tells you you are nice. Nice thread.
tbf Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Why perceive this as a negative? Your g/f was concerned about your feelings and was self-aware enough to realize that she potentially might not have what it takes to make you happy. Better this than someone who jumps into a relationship without regard for the guy's feelings and then dumps him when she realizes he's a doormat. 1
hppr Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 When they tell you that you're too-nice they are usually not telling the truth. It's almost always that there was some other incompatibility, or they found someone better.
USMCHokie Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 When they tell you that you're too-nice they are usually not telling the truth. It's almost always that there was some other incompatibility, or they found someone better. Suspicions certainly arise when a woman asserts that a guy is "too good" for her...aren't the good guys what women want...? How can somebody be too much of what you want...? :confused:
CryForNoOne Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 You can be a nice guy and still be assertive, confident, and sexy. Woman like nice guys, they don't like pushovers. Exactly. This is a BS thread. People on LS tend to categorize all nice guys as pushovers and all bad boys as douche bag alpha males. Women like alpha males. It just happens that self confidence often, but not always, goes along with douche baggery. What almost every woman wants is the nice guy alpha male. 2
FitChick Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I don't avoid good guys. I avoid whiners full of self-pity who are afraid of their own shadow. 1
Otty Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I don't avoid good guys. I avoid whiners full of self-pity who are afraid of their own shadow. Did the OP say anything about being a whiner, full of self-pity or afraid of his won shadow? In reading his posts, I couldn't find any indication of that, and actually saw where he said he had a girlfriend, which means at least one woman found something attractive about him. It seems like any time any man raises any question whatsoever about what women want in a mate, and that women's criterea may be....well....a bit unreasonable at times, then he is labeled a loser, a whiner, a wuss, and a bunch of other derogatory names by a whole brigade of women on here. It's not just here either. Go to the articles and comments or virtually any publication or website addressing these issues and you will find the same thing.
xxoo Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 The key to "too nice" is in the word "too", which indicates that the niceness has risen to the point of a problem. It is absolutely possible to be too nice. It isn't a good thing at all. And it doesn't mean those women are looking for guys who aren't nice, just guys who aren't "too" nice. 1
Otty Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 The key to "too nice" is in the word "too", which indicates that the niceness has risen to the point of a problem. It is absolutely possible to be too nice. It isn't a good thing at all. And it doesn't mean those women are looking for guys who aren't nice, just guys who aren't "too" nice. I guess I associate "niceness" with "kindness" and, to me, you can never have too much kindness. A woman who is kind to me will make me forget about many other flaws she might have.
xxoo Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 I guess I associate "niceness" with "kindness" and, to me, you can never have too much kindness. A woman who is kind to me will make me forget about many other flaws she might have. There is a difference between "nice to me" and "too nice in general". A person can absolutely be too kind. There is a time for kind, and there is a time for respectful and firm. Sometimes people who are invested in being seen as nice or kind have a difficult time being respectfully firm when the situation calls. Then, they tend to lose their temper and get nasty.
phineas Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Suspicions certainly arise when a woman asserts that a guy is "too good" for her...aren't the good guys what women want...? How can somebody be too much of what you want...? :confused: The last woman who said that about me was just guilty about having an abortion from another guy the first few weeks we dated. (we hadn't slept together yet & I had no idea) That night I took her to a party & she made out with a total stranger. She then went to my car with my buddy & started telling him I was too good for her. Yeah well after the way she acted I agree.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 The last woman who said that about me was just guilty about having an abortion from another guy the first few weeks we dated. (we hadn't slept together yet & I had no idea) That night I took her to a party & she made out with a total stranger. She then went to my car with my buddy & started telling him I was too good for her. Yeah well after the way she acted I agree. Yeah, it's a pretty safe bet that if she isn't sleeping with you, she's sleeping with someone else. Assuming this when dealing with all women has helped me tremendously in getting and keeping them.
hppr Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Yeah, it's a pretty safe bet that if she isn't sleeping with you, she's sleeping with someone else. Assuming this when dealing with all women has helped me tremendously in getting and keeping them. Ditto on that one. Until you have sex with a girl you have no idea where you stand with her, none.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Ditto on that one. Until you have sex with a girl you have no idea where you stand with her, none. Well, I mean sex means very little to many women, but YOU'LL care about HER less after the sex.....which makes it easier to keep her around.
juststarry6443 Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 I don't avoid good guys. Good guys tend to try to be friends first and I usually tend to not get out of the friend zone with guys so easily.
JakeFrye Posted May 11, 2013 Posted May 11, 2013 Just to chime in. "Good guy" is just code for REALLY FRIGGIN BORING.
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